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Can you become a surrogate if you are less than a month pregnant? 
We have a friend who can't have kids. If me and my husband got pregnant could they implant a baby for the other couple if we were in the first month of ...

I want to be a surrogate for my sister 
My sister has had numerous attempts at ai and invitro nothing worked she's spent a lot of money, I would like to be her surrogate but it would have to ...

Should I be a Surrogate for my brother in laws wife? 
Hi I'm currently 19 years old and I just recently gave birth to a 8lb 4oz healthy baby boy in June 2009 and about a month later my brother in law announce ...

Can I be a surrogate if I've never been pregnant? 
I have two close family friends who have been trying to have a child for years (it turns out she can't carry a child but her eggs are fine). I want to ...

surrogacy in ireland 
Is it possible to find a surrogate mother in Ireland? I would be interested in finding a woman who would do it. do you know anyone who has done it in Ireland ...

my tubes are tied can i still get a surrogate? 
Me and my husband have been married two years now and have two kids a peice, but none together. My tubes are tied can I get a surrogate with my tubes tied
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how long after having a baby should i wait before becoming a surrogate? 
I am currently pregnant with my own baby (my 4th actully) but I love being pregnant. I have been thinking about this for a long time. I hate the idea of ...

how does surrogacy work 
if i have friend that is willing to be a surrogacy doe to my health i cant carry it how do i get it start to have her carry my baby for me?

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Can I become a surrogate mother after having UPLIFT surgery for my retroverted uterus?  
Rayven,

I had this procedure 18 months after my daugher was born by an emergency C-section. Two years prior to my daugher's birth I gave birth by emergency ...

How do I go about being a surrogate 
I have 3 beautiful children of my own and would love to be a surrogate but not sure how to get started. Can you give me any advice?

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Is it possible to carry my child and my brother's child at once? 
My brother and his wife are having problems conceiving. I am considering being a surrogate for them if it ends up that is what is needed. I have never ...

Can I get a tattoo before becoming a gestational carrier? 
I am thinking about becoming a gestational carrier for my aunt. I have 2 childern, and am still nursing my son, my youngest. I have my oldests footprint ...

Asking for compensation 
I have agreed to become a gestational surrogate mother for my cousin, Im having a hard time asking for compensation even though they told me to think about ...

Just learning 
I have a couple questions. i am 20 yrs old, i have a child of my own already but i am not married, only engaged.
Do i have to be married to be a surrogate ...

Traditional Surrogacy Terminology  
what is the medical term called when a traditional surrogate is fertilized with the intended fathers sperm?

what is the correct medical terminology ...

The Difference Between Traditional Surrogacy and Gestational Surrogacy 
do you always use the other couples egg or could you just use the husbans sperm?

we do not have the money to do all the infertility specialest and i ...

Is there an age limit for a woman to become a surrogate mother? 
I am 61 years old and have menapaused. My daughter-in-law can't seem to carry a baby to term because of medical reasons. I'm wondering if I could be ...

after I have been sterilised could i become a surrogate mother? 
I am 25 with 2 children and have been sterilised
could I become a surrogate mother still?

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Belle,

You are able to become a gestational ...

Intended Parents that Owe Surrogate Mother Money 
what if the baby you delivered is now a year old and payment by the intended parents is not yet recieved, what do you do? the agency cant get it either ...

What are the chances I will loose my uterus in this process? 
I am concerned about loosing my uterus during the surrogacy process? Are the chances and risk high than a normal pregnancy? I also have another question ...

US Surrogacy with European Surrogate Mother 
I Live in the US and a dear friend of mine from Europe is offering to be our surrogate mother... Is this possible under American Law? We live in NC. How ...

Do you know an insurance plan that allows surrogate pregnancies? 
I am trying to find an insurance plan that includes coverage for surrogacy pregnancies. I have found lots of insurance carriers that do maternity coverage,...

Affording Surrogacy 
I have been reading up on surrogacy but it seems to be something ony well to do people could afford. Is there any funds that help people pay for any of ...

Am I allowed to become a surrogate mother for my sister? 
My sister, Emily, has had more than 8 hernias and she isnt even seventeen. Many medical doctors and specialists have looked at her, but they can't understand ...

Clarification on surrogacy insurance 
I feel like the previous questions don't quite answer my specific question on insurance. I live in Massachusetts where every person is required to have ...

insurance coverage for my surrogate 
Hi Rayven,

I have a family friend's daughter who is willing to be my surrogate, she has medical insurnace, which we won't use, do you know of any insurance ...

Is cramping after an IVF transfer normal?? 
I am a gestational surrogate for my best friend and her husband. This is the first time any of us have gone through this process. The transfer was done ...

I offered my friend to be a surrogate for her 
She was just telling me about her problems with multiple IVF's and telling me that she's ready to look for surrogate, and I just offered. I know it not ...

why is it so hard to find a ts and not a gs 
we have been trying for 6 years and had two failed attempts with ts, we cant do gs as we could not afford to go that road

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How long does the surrogacy process generally take? 
I have friends who have been trying to have a baby for almost 10 years now, and they've just lost their twins at 10 weeks. I'm considering offering to ...

why is a fair price to ask for a traditional surrogacy 
why is a fair price to ask for a traditional surrogacy. And should i use there lawyer or use my own.

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Hi Kim,

The fees a traditional ...

dose a surrogate mother have any right  
i was just wondering for my english 21 research papar

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Christina,

Your question is very vague so I will answer it the best ...

interested in being a gestational serrogate 
is there a company to work through that will be able to assist with any questions or concerns near Niles, Michigan? I am interested in finding out more ...

how can i have a baby 
i want to have a baby and be able to raise him/her, but i need someone to carry my baby, how and where do i go bout doin that

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How did you become a surrogate? 
I am interested in becoming a surrogate but do not know how.

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How did I become involved in surrogacy? I literally stumbled upon ...

Whats the odds of becoming a surrogate? 
I am 20 with a son.. and i would love to help other couples who are unable to have a child..

I was just wondering what the odds of me being a surrogate ...

Do you receive money in advance for medications or reimbursment after the fact? 
I have signed on to be a Traditional Surrogate. We are in the beginning stages. I have purchased my first round of meds. Should I be asking for money ...

Can I carry a baby where it is my partners egg fertilized with my brothers sperm? 
My partner and I really want to have a baby and we want it to be a part of both of us!! That being said she has no brothers or male's in her family that ...

How long can a surrogate be with the baby? 
I want to know, as an intended mother, how long the surrogate stays with the baby after birth. Does she take him home until the court date? or what? I'...

Can the surrogate mother take the baby within the first 30 days after birth? 
I know there are a lot of laws surrounding adoption and surrogacy. So I was wondering if the surrogate mother had a time period in which she could ask ...

I have a surrogacy compensation question! And a few others! 
I am a first time surromom and am unsure of what to ask as comp. I am not too demanding and am not in it for the money so I want to be fair. Also is FL ...

my husband's ex wife is our surrogate 
My husband's ex wife wants to be a surrogate for us. We've been married three years and he has a 10 year old daughter with his former wife. They have ...

How do I go about this? 
I have wanted to be a surrogate for a long time now. I live in north wales uk. I am 26 and have a very loving family an supportive husband. I would prefer ...

Taking OTC medication while cycling for a surrogacy journey  
The Lupron injection is giving me really bad headache's, what type of medication is ok to take when you going through a cycle? What type of medication ...

How does surrogacy insurance work.. 
How does the insurance work..does the surrage's insurance pay for the dr visits and delivery, or does the insurance not cover any expense

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how can i become a surrogate mother? 
I already have 2 children of my own and feel my family is complete. I dont know what i would have done if i couldnt have children, it is heart breaking,...

Do you really have to abstain from sex with your husband for the first trimester?? 
I read that the surrogate has to abstain from sex with their partner for the entire first trimester? Is this really true? If so, why? I've had three ...

Can I be a surrogate mother for my older brother? 
Do you know if it'd be possible for me to be a surrogate for my older, single brother? I have not had children before and am single, but I'm also not ...

How will the clinic sync the surrogate and egg donor's cycle? 
Hi,
Have you ever worked with Surrogenesis in California? I'm suppose to fly down to La Jolla to have my first apt. I don't really know what to expect ...

How much it cost for some one to carry my eggs 
I can't carry my own babies because I don't have Uterus, I would like to know how it works. How it cost for a person to carry my baby and how much it will ...

Can my mother who is 49 be a surrogate mother for me? 
I am 32 yrs old, been trying to have a baby for 10 years but have had 7 miscarriages and 3 ectopic pregnancies, my right tube is gone and my left is blocked ...

I'm having trouble finding surrogacy rider insurance? 
Can you help me find surrogacy insurance?

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Trying to go into a surrogacy journey without medical insurance is difficult. To my ...

Is surrogacy compensation taxable? 
I was just wondering if the surrogate's compensation money is taxable and if so how much comes out?

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This is a difficult question,...

Government Assistance and Surrogacy 
I'm a bit more articulate than your prior questioner on this topic... as well as not afraid to speak truthfully. I feel it is my responsibility to declare ...

i am thinking of becoming a surrogate 
i need information on becoming a surrogate in england.
happy to help couples but unaware if the legal issues.

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This website, Information ...

Failed Surrogacy Transfer- What Went Wrong 
I just took a blood test after my first try at surrogacy, and I am not pregnant. I never had a trouble getting pregnant on my own. Is there anything ...

Do I need a surrogate? 
I have a weak cervix an I deliver my baby boy at 22 weeks on 03/10/08...So I decided to wait 6 months to try again and I got pregnant on 10/08 and on 12/...

Age Limit on Being a Surrogate Mother 
Is there age limit to be a surrgant? I have visited a practice in Ohio and they would not accept because of my age? or is this just a preference due ...

Am I eligible to become a surrogate mother? 
I already have 2 little boys and I'm pregnant with my last child (a little girl). What is a safe waiting period before becoming a surrogate mother after ...

How can a surrogate be left with medical bills? 
How can a surrogate end up with the medical bills from the birth of the baby or the pregnancy? Aren't the intended parents responsible for them? I mean,...

if i am pregnant already could I be a surrogate mother 
I just found out I am pregnant 6 weeks. Would I be able to be a surrogate mother at this time and carry the baby in my womb with my own?

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Can I still be a surrogate after having a c-section? 
When I had my set of twins, I had one vaginally and then the second by c-section so i'm worried that I may not be accepted as a surrogate. Is there still ...

can i be a surrogate for my brother and his wife? 
my brother's new wife can't have children. i want to know if medically, can i carry a baby for my biological brother. would it be insestial for me to carry ...

I have never been pregnant. Could I still be an Surrogate? 
I have always wanted to be a Surrogate. I have never been pregnant before. Would someone still consider me as an Surrogate? IS there a way to become ...

Back to back surrogacys 
How long should a surrogate wait between pregnancies? We have a friend that is currently pregnant in her first surrogacy and she has agreed to be our gestational ...

Spotting After Transfer? 
hi i got inplanted on 22nd of november 2008 and going for my blood test tomorrow but i had spotting last week and this week do you think things have gone ...

Can I carry my brother's child?  
My partner and I want to have a baby. We want to use her egg but I would carry the child. I know for some this sounds very odd but we want to know if we ...

Surrogate moms and HPV 
Hello

I am interested in becoming a surrogate mom but I have HPV. My question is, will that disqualify me as a potential surrogate mom?

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How would I become a part of being a surrogate mother? 
I have one child of my own and it opened my eyes to share the gift I have with others that can not have children of their own.

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How many embryo transfers are required for surrogacy? 
Does the transfer of embryos usually take the first time around? If not how many times do it usually take from your experienced?

I am in the first stages ...

Can you be considered a canidate to be a surrogate mother if you have had a miscarriage? 
My sister has had many miscarriages and one successful pregnancy. She is just about to turn 40 and she has been trying to have another baby for years ...

Finding a lawyer in california 
Hi there,
I'm having trouble finding a lawyer in California that specializes in surrogacy contracts. Can you point me in the right direction. Also, have ...

Should my wife be a surrogate for her sister? 
My wife and I have three children via c-section. After our last her doctor performed a tubal as there were concerns about a future procedure. Now my sister-...

Can u be a surrogate if you have had your tubes tied and c-section? 
I had my tubes tied, And all of my 3 children were born by c- section, could I still be a surrogate? And how long would I have to wait before I could Be?...

Our friend wants to be our surrogate 
We have a friend that has offered to be our surrogate. She and her family live in a surrogacy friendly state. We do not. How do we go about getting started?...

My wife wants to become a surrogate mother, but I have concerns 
Hello,

My wife keeps talking to me about wanting to be a surrogate mom. I don't know how to reply. I dont know what to say. Just a brief history ...

How do you get started in surrogacy? 
i AM INTERESTED IN BECOMING A SURROGATE MOTHER BUT I DONT KNOW WHERE TO START! DO YOU LOOK FOR PEOPLE AND HOW? OR DO THEY LOOK FOR YOU. WHAT ARE SOME GOOD ...

Why don't intended mothers turn to surrogacy if they are afraid of carrying a baby or giving birth to a baby? 
On your website it reads, "Contrary to what some people may believe, intended mothers do not turn to surrogacy because they don't want to or are afraid ...

What is the best way to tell your own children about surrogacy? 
I'm in the early stages of IVF to be a gestational carrier and I was just wondering if you had any suggestions on how I can try and explain what I'm doing ...

Why is a surrogate's financial status anyone's business?? 
I just read another post in which you state that a surrogate declaring bankruptcy was a nightmare situation.

Would you care to elaborate a little on ...

How does insurance for a surrogate baby work? 
Ok, I understand that the surrogates insurance pays for her, but what about the baby? Do we need to get some special insurance for when the baby is born,...

best surrogacy center & extra concerns 
any surrogacy centers that are reliable and can be trusted?
how long after the birth process will the baby separate from the surrogate mom and be given ...

how can I be sure that my surrogate will take good care of her self and my babay? 
just wandering on how are the parents able to now for sure that the surrogate mother they've choose is careful with her body,no drugs, takes vitamins, etc?...

How does it feel giving up a surrogate baby? 
How does it really feel giving up a surrogate baby? Is it hard? I know I want to do this, but I'm really worried that I will have a hard time when it ...

What is the worst part in your opinion? 
Surrogacy seems so wonderfull by all who talk about it. But I want to know about the Con's to it because it cant be perfect. So what are the bad things?...

A friend being a surrogate? 
I recently discovered that i cant have children. I wondered if my best friend, as long as she's willing, would be a gestational surrogate for me. She'll ...

How bad are the shots?? 
I have decided to become a Gestational Surrogate and in the final stages of the application process. I keep hearing about all the medication and shots ...

Gestational Carrier...Should She Hold the Baby? 
Hi
Do you think it is a good idea that the Gestational Carrier holds the baby after it is born, or just have a clean break?. I dont want to sound mean ...

My husband is not supportive of surrogacy...should I do it anyways? 
I don't think he really thinks I will go through with it; becoming a surrogate mother. I've been talking about surrogacy for about six months now, and ...

How does a surrogate get pregnant? 
I'm kinda nervous about asking this. I mean no disrespect. But how exactly does a surrogate get pregnant? Does she, um, well, "do it" with the dad? And ...

surrogate questions? 
my wife and i are considering our options to start our family. i love kids and knew when i got into the relationship that she did not want to go through ...

What happens next? 
I am going to be a gestational surrogate for my brother and his wife. I have a feeling my brother is going to want to micro-manage my life (which I am ...

Why is surrogacy so expensive?  
Hia.
We're looking into surrogacy as an option for our family as we have had 4 miscarriages in the last 3 years. But we running into a wall with the ...

Where do we find a surrogate please? 
After 3 IUI and 2 IVF's the doctor says it is surrogacy time now. We have been married for 10 years and we have always wanted children. Sadly, it has not ...

WHY can't women who have never been pregnat before become a surrogate? 
Ok, I've read it all and I know that women who are childless cannot become a surrogate mother, but WHY is that the case??!!

Some of us just want to ...

why do agencies require a serogate to not be on goverment assistance? 
why do the agencies I'm looking at say that they don't want serogates to be on government assistance? wouldnt it be better because then they would be able ...

Most important thing to do when matching?  
Whats the most important thing you need to remember when you are matching for a surrogacy? We are in our early 40's, professionals, looking for a surrogate ...

What gifts would surrogate appreciate? 
We have a wonderful surrogate carrying our twins. She has no biological ties to babies. She is in week 19/20. I would like to begin giving her gifts ...

About intended parents not paying for medical bills 
Hi. You said on your page about things that go bad in surrogacy that it is common that intended parents don't pay for all the surrogate's medical bills ...

How old should you be for surrogacy? 
So I was thinking of doing surrogacy. I am 17 right now, but I have two children of my own. They were born healthy and I did have a c-section both times,...

Can you be a surrogate with your tubes tied? 
I was wondering if it is possible to be a surrogate mother if you had your tubes tied? I did that after my last pregnancy. Can I still do surrogacy? Thanks....

Maternity Advantage Insurance Info 
Hi
Our Surrgate is 7 mths pregnant and lost her insurance. Have your heard of Maternity advantage does it really help. I am nervous to pay for it if it ...

Giving Up a Surrogate Baby 
im in the last couple of weeks of my surrogate pregnancy was it hard to give up the baby im starting to get really scared after the birth

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Husband unsure if surrogacy is the right option, what should I do?   Not rated yet
ME AND MY HUSBAND HAVE BEEN TRYING FOR YEAR THREW IVF AND NOTHING BUT A EMPTY CRIB :( AND BANK ACCOUNT...IM OK HE HAS A LOW COUNT,,,TOOK ONCE MISCARRIED ...