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can you be a surrogate if you have had one or more babies born premature 
i have had 3 children, 2 were born prem, and spent a short time in scbu, apart from that pregnancys all great, no actual known reason for prematurity
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SURROGATE MOTHER GIFT 
AS THE MOTHER OF A SURROGATE MOTHER, READY TO DELIVER, I WOULD LIKE TO GET HER A SMALL PERSONAL GIFT FOR HER WILLINGNESS TO GIVE ANOTHER COUPLE A DREAM ...

how can an intended mother build a prenatal relationship with the baby when the baby is inside the surrogate mother ?  
it's always been said that prenatal relationship means a lot before the baby was born, the bonding; the talking; the kicking.. by having a strong bond ...

already pregnant. want to become a surrogate mum. 
i am already pregnant and don't want my baby to be adopted. i want to choose who my child goes to, so how do i go about becoming a surrogate mum?

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What if you want to be a surrogate, but have given your child to an adoptive family? 
Hi, I've been reading in most of the websites on surrogate's requirements, and they say you most have given birth to a child and be raising them. Well ...

What about the couples who do not have tons of money? 
Aren't there women out there willing to conceive and carry a child for a couple who cannot have children of their own just out of the goodness of their ...

do you know any one personally that has paid taxes on surrogacy? 
I am first time surrogate and wanted to know when you do report your surrogacy compensation on your taxes are they taxed if you say compensation was for ...

I want to offer to be a surrogate for my friends 
I am happily married, Have two beautiful children and really want to offer to be a surrogate for our married friends who have tried for 5 years to have ...

i want to let some one have a baby for me because i cant have any 
i want a baby i'm 18 i never wanted one so bad in my life every one i now walks round saying the little brats stuff like that i never say it because i ...

can i be a surrogate for my brother using donor eggs and my brothers sperm? 
i live in england, my brother lives in canada. he has had many failed relationships and longs for children of his own that no-one can take away from him ...

What are my first steps in considering the option of a surrogate? 
Hi. I am 30 years old (2 months away from 31) and I desperately want a baby. My husband and I have been married for almost 6 years, and together for 10....

Can I be a surrogate for my brother and his wife? 
My brother and my sister in law are having trouble having a baby. She has had several miscarriages and was diagnosed with Gillian Barret syndrome is is ...

HOW IS THE TRANSFER MADE FROM THE MALE TO THE SURROGATE?IS THERE ANY INTERCOURSE? 
HEY THANKS FOR GETTING BACK TO ME BOUT MY PRIOR QUESTION ?I'M THE 35Y GAY MALE BEING I'M NEW TO THIS SURROGACY THING, I WAS WONDERING ABOUT HOW THE TRANSFER ...

i'm a new single healthy 35y gay male thinking bout surrogarcy?  
i'm thinking about dealing with the surrogate privatly rather then a agency which can be expensive but will of cuorse have legal counsel & by the way could ...

Is South Dakota Surrogacy Friendly? 
I would like to become a surrogate and I was wondering if anyone knows if South Dakota allows surrogacy. I've looked everywhere and cant seem to find an ...

can my husband be the father of the baby im carrying if we were having sex starting on the 2nd month of my pregnancy ? 
im a surogate mother and is now pregnant with the intended parents child...but on the 2nd month of my pregnancy my husband and i started having sex...would ...

how long do you have to wait after you have a baby to be a surrogate mother 
how long do you have to wait after you have a baby to be a surrogate mother

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There is no set rule for this, but it is generally ...

Can a sister be a surrogate for her brother? 
I have had a tubal and an ablasion and I desperately would like to have a child with my new husband. Is it possible for his sister to be surrogate for ...

How much compensation should i ask for? 
I recently decided to become a gestational surrogate mother. I have had a few people ask me already how much compensation i want. This is something i have ...

Does my blood have to match for my baby to be carried in someone else? 
I have had 3 miscarriages. I'm ready to become a mother. My Question is my friend has offered to carry for me.My heart breaks everytime my period is late ...

Being a Surrogate for my sister. 
What standards are there if you are a surrogate for a family member? Is there an age limit? I am 23. And do you already have to have a child? We would ...

How do I begin the process for my husband and I to have a baby through surrogacy? 
I am unable to have kids but have eggs. What is the process that has to be taken in order for someone to be a surrogate parent for us?

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how much does it cost to have a gestational carrier/surrogate? 
Are thre any agencies for placing surrogates?

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Intended parents pay different fees depending on so many circumstances. How much ...

My sister is willing to be My surrogate. What do we have to do legally? 
My sister had an unplanned pregnancy and since i am unable to get pregnant we adopted that child and now we are talking about her being a surrogate and ...

if you are on government assistance can why cant you still be a surrogate if the family pays for everything instead of using your medical card? 
i really want to be one but i have a medical card i loved being pregnant and giving birth and i had it really easy i really want to do it for someone that ...

Im going threw the process of being a surrogate. Is there anyhting i might need to know other than the legal stuff. 
What emotional stuff do i need to know about

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I daresay the emotional "stuff" is much more important than the legal process.

You'...

Once my lawyer files legal documents in the court how long will I have to wait for my court date  
I am a gestational surro ready for transfer on Jan 18th

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I have no clue. You'll have to ask your attorney.

Is it possible I couldn't have any more children of my own if I choose to be a gestational surrogate mother? 
I'm truly thinking about being a surrogate mother but my husband and I find it important to have one more child together. What are the risks that being ...

What are the steps you have to go through to become a surrogate? 
-Health factors
-Family history
-Blood type
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Vanessa,

Each country has different laws and regulations on surrogacy....

i am 8 months pregnant can i give my baby to a couple as a surrogate 
i am 8 months pregnant and was wondering if i could still be a surrogate by giving my baby up. can i do that?

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No. That is an ...

Is it possible to remove an already fertilized egg and implant it into a surrogate? 
My sister is 7 weeks pregnant. It was an unplanned pregnancy and she has heart problems. If she carries the baby she will more than likely need a transplant....

Is there any way to be a surrogate mother if you have no children of your own? 
I really want to have a child for another couple. I feel it's a calling and I want to do it for all the right reasons. Why can't I find a way to do this?...

would have to go through all the prcedures 
i already have had a baby and ive had to go throught two abortions and im pregnate now and i must give it up for adoption, all yhis in the last 3 years....

Lots of Questions 
Hi Rayven! I'm so glad you have this sight. I have a lot of questions for you! Here goes:
I am thinking of using a gestational surrogate if I ever want ...

To call or not to call? 
So far I've seen that I fit all the normal requirments to become a surrogate, but have had trouble deciding about making the final call for them to contact ...

About how much would it cost to be surragate to a couple? 
I know a couple who are amazingly great and great friends they cannot have children and I beleive she still produces eggs but not sure. If she does and ...

should mothers get paid for surrogacy 
should a mom be compensated for surrogacy yes or no

Reply by Rayven

Hi Alex,

If you're looking for a Yes or No answer, then Yes, a woman should ...

How old do i have to be in california to be a surrogate mother? 
I am 18 and i have two kids who live with their dad. I love being pregnant but i don't like the after math. I would love to help people who can't have ...

Can I be a surrogate Mom if I had an aborton? 
I had an abortion when my fetus was 9 weeks along, can I still be a surrogate Mom? I am extremely fertile - I got pregnant twice on birth control. I am ...

can i be pregnant with my own baby and my friends baby as a surogate 
I have a 4 month old son and I know i want another for sure. could i be implanted with my own baby and the baby of a close couple? I would love tp give ...

what precautions do I need to take if my sister is my surrogate? 
I am completely fine with my sister being my surrogate. I want to as she does not work as she has 3 children of her own 2 in school and an 13 month old....

Friend as surrogate 
Hi, I live in MA and was wondering if it is legal for my friend to become my surrogate (no agency). What would be the costs and logistics?

Thank you,...

how does it all work?? 
hi i am 30 years old, i am a 2 1/2 year survivor of ovarian cancer, it all happened suddenly just a year after i was married, we had no idea untill my ...

my sister is my surrogate mother what legal precautions do i have to take  
my sister got pregnant she want me to keep the baby and i want to so she will be my surrogate mother? what legal things do i have to do what are the steps ...

can you be a surrogate if you a vrigin 
i really want to help mothers who can't have children but i am a vrigin

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No, you cannot. You must have had at least one child ...

Do you know the statistics on the amount of surrogacy's in the State of Texas 
I am in school and currently writing a research paper on surrogacy parenthood. It's been difficult finding any statistics on surrogacy or if Obama has ...

howto find a surrogate mum 
hello everyone

where is the best to find a surrogate mum,as me and my gorlfriend are new to the surrogcy thing any help is more then welcome

kinf ...

Am I eligible to be a surrogate mother? 
I have read the qualifications. I have two children and I have been thinking about becoming a surrogate mother. I think it would be really nice to bring ...

how long do you have to decided if you want to keep the baby ? 
if you are a surrogate mother how long do you have to decided if you want to keep the baby or continue with the process

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None....

Besides money, what is the best gift for a surrogate mother? 
My son and daughter-in-law had a friend carry and deliver twins for them as a gift of love. If I could, I would give the surrogate a truck load of money ...

How much does it cost financially to do the whole surrogacy thing? 
I am looking to ti have a friende be a surrogate for me. I cant have kids due to 2 tubal pregnancies that i have had. My gynocologist told me I wasnt able ...

Can anyone out there make a dream come true? 
My husband and I are looking into finding a surrogate mummy,
as i am unable to have a baby naturally...please feel free to leave me comments or information ...

what in your opinion are some of the cons of surrogacy 
I am a student at Akron Institute and i and a few fellow students are doing a class project and our topic was surrogacy. And i was wondering if you could ...

can i still be a surrogate if i am currently pregnant 
i am currently pregnant is there any way i could be a surrogate

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No. It is not physically possible to become pregnant when you ...

Financially Unable for Surrogacy 
My husband and I are unable to carry our own child and have turned to Gestational Surrogacy. However, the only thing that is a road block for us is that ...

Can a person afford to be picky when selecting a surrogate? 
I'm 39 and I've been married 17 years, right after I got out of the army. My wife and I have had our ups and downs but we've weathered them all -- But,...

Am I eligible for surrogacy?  
i had my uterus and cervix removed. Can i have my eggs removed and his sperm put together and have someone carry our baby?

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Leslie,...

Do you know of any agencies that would let a 20 year old participate? 
My name is Ashley and I'm 20 years old. I've been married for 2 years and have an 8 month old daughter. I had a perfect pregnancy and would love to do ...

hi im a single man who wants a baby is it posible to do surrogacy? 
hi im a single man who wants a baby what age do you have to be and do i have to have a partner

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Alexander,

Laws regarding ...

Should I become a surrogate for my sister?  
I would like some advice and information. I am 29 and have no children of my own.

My sister and her huband have been trying to get pregnant for 2 years....

should the traditonal surrogate be allowed to hold the baby at birth? 
My husband and I have found our surrogate, a close family friend who is 6 months pregnant with her own child. My husband has a fascination with pregnant ...

Can I be a surrogate mother? 
I am 20 years old. Have a 9 month old baby boy who was born very healthy. I am married and have been for about 2 years as of next month. I meet all the ...

How can I find a surrogate mother in the UK? 
Me and my partner are looking for a surrogate in the UK, but unfortunately we are finding it hard here in the UK. It seems to be much easier in the US....

I have someone who will be a surrogate mother for me and my fiance.   Not rated yet
How much would it cost to have this done? The would be surrogate mother will not charge anything so I'm thinking it would be just the cost a doctor would ...

i would like to know, where do i start?? how do i become a surrogate??  Not rated yet
I'm 27 yrs old i have 2 children of my own, and have been thinking for a long time now about becoming a surrogate but have no idea where to start..how ...

Can my friend be my surrogate mom?  Not rated yet
My husband & I are thinking about having my friend being a surrogate to my child.But the baby will not have my DNA it will have my husband's.We dont want ...

can my husband sister be a surrogate mother?  Not rated yet
we are thinking of surrogacy and was wondering if my husband sister can carry the pregenancy for us?

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Assuming she meets all the ...

Cost of being a traditonal surrogate to my sister without collecting a fee?  Not rated yet
Hi, I was wondering about becoming a surrogate to my sister. She has scar tissue in her uterus and was told it is unlikely she'll be able to have kids....

Looking for a surrogate in UK  Not rated yet
We are a couple from west yorkshire UK looking for a surrogate to help us achieve our dream of having a child of our own, I have two teenagers from a previous ...

Surrogacy for my friend.  Not rated yet
Hi, I've been thinking about being a surrogate for my friend. She's had three miscarriages and hasn't been able to have any other pregnancies for a couple ...

Is it possible for me to be a surrogate for my sister????  Not rated yet
I had a baby 10 1/2 weeks early when I was 16 then 7 years later i had a full term baby. my husband and I are done having children I just was wondering ...

how much compensation will i get being a surrogate in uk  Not rated yet
im looking in to being a TS i live in the uk and have had a wide range of veiws on how much it should be?

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This website, Information ...

How long after becoming a surrogate did you feel the symptoms of pregnancy?  Not rated yet
I am becoming a gestational surrogate for my sister within the next few months. Since the egg will already be fertilized when it is implanted, will my ...

Is putting a cap on surrogate loss wages normal?  Not rated yet
I am in the middle of contract negotiations. My IP want to put a $4,000. loss wages cap on our contract. That includes 4 weeks of loss wages after birth....

need info on becoming a surrogate for my sister and brother in law  Not rated yet
my sister has an incompetent cervix and has to babies born too early to survive and i just want to help her out

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Well, you've ...

Can you have you own children after being a surrogate?  Not rated yet
Hi. I am looking into this for the first time. A friend of mine can not have children due to an accident earlier in her life. I have given birth to two ...