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I am curious about the demand and fee I would charge for my surrogate services 
Hello there. I have been moving along in the surrogate process and my next step is to have my medical exam, which I know with general certainty will be ...

Is it typcal for there to be a coordinator in the middle of the surrogate and the IP? 
How typical is it for there to be a middle person between the two parties?

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If you are going through a surrogacy agency, there may ...

Can you use your own eggs and do traditional surrogacy? 
Could it be possible for my eggs to be taken along with my partners sperm and then used via the 'A.I.' method?

Rayven.

Hi,I have just joined this ...

I'm scared of being pregnant. Can I get a surrogate? 
Is there a difference in the maternal bond? My husband and I want children but I don't want to go thru pregnancies. The whole idea and thought of being ...

Being a surrogate for my sister 
I am currently researching eveything I can to see of being a gestational surrogate for my sister is something I can do. She has had 4 miscarriages in the ...

Do I qualify to become a surrogate mother? 
I am interested in becoming a gestational surrogate in the near future. I have 2 kids, a 3 year old and a 6 month old. I had 2 miscarriages before my ...

What questions should a surrogate ask the IP's on the first meeting? 
What questions should a surrogate ask the IP's on the first meeting?

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Natalie,

This is a very important question that many surrogate ...

Does being a surrogate have greater risks? 
I am in the process of becoming a surrogate and i was wondering if being pregnant via surrogacy raises a greater risk for death than if I were to get pregnant ...

Traditional Surrogacy with a One Night Stand  
Hi, I am unable to have children due to cystic ovaries, weight etc. my sis has offered to have a baby for me. It would be her own biological child with ...

Do surrogates pump and give breast milk to new parents? 
I am planning on becoming a surrogate and I believe that breastfeeding for a year is important. Is it customary for a surrogate to pump breast milk for ...

Can i become a surrogate if i haven't had children of my own?  
Hi my name is Stephanie and I'm 20 years old, i haven't had a child of my own but my dream and love is to become a surrogate, for one and only reason to ...

is it normal to get cold feet before becoming a surrogate mum?  
i have been planning to become a traditional surrogate mum for quite some time.. and now the day is finally here and i think i mite be having 2nd thoughts....

Questions about traditional surrogacy 
My bestfriend had a babyboy about a year ago and loved being pregnant, shes such a good mom and took really good care of herself and unborn child while ...

Does the surrogate's husband need to have kids of his own? 
My wife wants very much to be a surrogate mother. I want to support her in this. My one reservation is that I have never had kids of my own. I have ...

before a surrogacy 
hi
i am an ip and my sister is going to be helping us out next year by being our surrogate, i have looked around but dont seem to really see anything ...

Irregular period disqualify me from being a surrogate? 
I used to have an irregular period during my life. I have couple of kids now, 2 and 3 and a loving husband. I put my app with the respectful agency but ...

Temporarily using government assistance with surrogacy 
My husband and I (legally marrid gay couple in Connecticut) have a freind who has decided that she will be a traditional surrogate for us. She is a close ...

How to deal with people in your life who are not for me being a surrogate mother? 
I am beginning the process to become a surrogate mother for my sister. I have just told my mother in law and she is not happy with my choice. She feels ...

Surrogacy after menopause?! 
Hi Rayven, Is surrogacy only successful if the surrogate mother is fertile? In the case where the egg has been donated.
Could someone be a surrogate ...

I want to be a surrogate but have never been pregnant? 
It started out when my sister started having trouble getting pregnant. I told her that if it came down to it, I would be a surrogate for her. And I've ...

How do you recommend explaining my surrogacy pregnancy to my 3 yr old? 
A friend of mine has asked me to be her gestational surrogate, I would love to give her the most precious gift as she can not have children but, I do not ...

Can selective reduction/ abortion harm the surrogate in any way? 
Hi Rayven,

My name is Juli. I am almost 19 years old and look forward to possibly becoming a surrogate mother in the future. I understand that I am ...

Can you be a surrogate if you have PCOS? 
I have been considering becoming a surrogate and I have recently been diagnosed with PCOS. I have had three successful vaginal deliveries of my own and ...

Would insurance find out? 
Lets say a close friend surrogate has insurance that does not cover her surrogate pregnancy. If they were not to involve lawyers and were to conceive at ...

Surrogate with Lupus 
Can a female with lupus become a surrogate ??

Reply by Rayven
It is highly unlikely that an agency or clinic will approve a woman with Lupus to ...

What are the risks for a surrogate who has already had 4 healthy pregnancies and 3 miscarriages? 
Hi. My name is Katie and I live in the UK. My friend has just offered to be a surrogate so that my husband and I can have a child of our own. I made some ...

would you take eggs from a dying womans body to carry another mans baby? 
A husband wishes to remove eggs from his wife's dying body to be fertilized by his sperm in vitro and then implanted into a surrogate mother. Should we ...

The transfer is coming up quickly and I would like to get the IPs a gift. Any suggestions? 
I am a first time surrogate for a wonderful couple. I live here in the states, but the couple live in France. They are here in the U.S. for a couple of ...

need advice and opinions on me becoming a seragot!!! 
i have a dear friend who is lovely her and her husband they are in thier 30s and have bee trying for a baby for a long time now she just keeps having miscarriages ...

How much should I charge for the second baby? 
What is the appropriate amount to charge for a second baby?

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I am unclear by your question if you are asking what a multiple's fee ...

I am a 59 year physician who is cnsidering have a child thorugh surrogacy. Is this possible? 
I am a 59 male physician who has had sevral children with my wife. We are considering having another child thorugh surragacy. Would there ever be any age ...

Are the fees associated with surrogacy taxable? 
I am looking at being a surrogate and wondering if the fees that are paid during surrogacy taxable? If so, how do you claim it?
Thanks

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Bonding with the unborn child  
when a surrogate carries another womens child does that special bond that mother and child share not present any longer because the surrogate carried the ...

I'm 31,but wanting some info about a surrogate having a baby for me,but not sure if my husband and I of 11 years are going to stay together so how to go about using someone elses sperm 
I'm on disability from 2 back surgeries including 1 anterior 3 disk Interbody lumbar fusion. I take Opana(morphine pills)&wear a Fentanyl patch(morphine)...

hi i would like to now how to be my moms sergate 
see my mom has no insides so she cant cary a baby but she still got one ovary so she still got eggs and i have two kids and we wont to take her egg and ...

will the intended father have to adopt the baby from me? 
i am planning to be a surrogate mother to a single man, will he have to officially adopt his baby from me, as i will be the biological mother, but don'...

Husband is paralyzed 
My husband is paralyzed and wAs told he can't have children. Can he and I use a surrogate to have a baby that is our's?

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A surrogate ...

can you be a surrogate at more than one agency at a time? 
I want to sign up with several agencies to get my name out as much as possible, but I am not sure if this is allowed. Once you sign up with one agency,...

can a current marital seperation disqualify me from becoming a surrogate? 
If i am currently seperated from my husband will I be disqualified from surrogacy?

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It's possible that you will not qualify at ...

Is surrogacy pricey for potential parents? 
I am a 27 year old mommy of one and while I do not have any interest right now in having another baby, we have friends who are experiencing serious trouble ...

government assistance 
I receive government assistance bc of my husbands income, but less than $55 a month. I have had 2 healthy pregnancies. What are the chances of my being ...

How to cope with family's lack of support 
I want to be a surrogate. I think after I had my daugther I knew that this is something that I have to do. I shared with my family about 3 years ago, that ...

Birth Control Pills with Tubal 
If my surrogate mother has her tubes tied~why does she need to go on birth control before the transfer? does my surrogate mother need birth control before ...

what happens if u get pregnant with more than one? 
and they only want one baby

Reply by Rayven

This is a very good question, and one that must be answered on a case by case basis BEFORE the pregnancy,...

How do u charge to have a baby? 
Ive been trying to have a baby, but no luck. But I don't have money to get a surrogate mother, is there problems that help pay?

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I ...

Want to be a surrogate at 14 
I'm 14, ive wanted to be surrogate mother for about 3 years now, having the family that i have im a lot more mature then an average teenager. Any way to ...

what if the baby looked like the surrogate mother  
The eggs & sperm belong to the parents and people tell me (the surrogate mother) that the baby looks like me & a similar look to my kids? Why would this ...

Surrogate's Husband and Paternity Leave 
Normally, do employers have to give the husband of a surrogate mother paternity leave (unpaid)?? And- can this leave be taken awhile after the birth, or ...

Depo and Surrogacy 
I just recently got my depo shot but now have desided to start my surragatcy process is there any way to counter act the depo shot to help move along ...

Becoming a surrogate 
hi my name is Anne and I am 21 years old. I know most of the requirements of becoming a surrogate however I am slightly confused with several things
Birth ...

I am 20 and i need money can i be a surrogate? 
Well i am 20 i live on my own just need money for my new place and for me to start living on my own so i have to wait a whole 4 to 6 months to become a ...

Is it still surrogacy if the egg and sperm are both donated? 
Step-Daughter has offered to surrogate for my wife and I. We're going to do IUI, but I have health issues, and have no idea if my swimmers are up to snuff....

what happens if the baby is the wrong gender? 
if a couple wants a girl baby and the surrogate gives birth to a boy baby..i was wondering if the contract would be null? what happens to the surrogate ...

how to help gestational carrier with loss 
Hello i am a wanna be mommy and my fantastic cousin has agreed to be my gestational carrier... how can i possiably help her with the sense of loss i know ...

I am meeting with a lawyer 
I am meeting with a lawyer this coming up week, I would be the surrogate mother, and the intended parents and I are attempting a gestational surrogacy....

Is surrogacy the right option for me? 
Me and my fiance are wanting to have a child of our own. I am able to get pregnant but I am not able to carry a pregancy. I have heart problems, so carrying ...

Working with an agency when you have multiple c-sections 
Are there any surrogate companies that will work with someone who has had 4 or more previous c-section?

I have completed my family and would love to ...

can i be a surrogate in the us if i live in the uk? 
I am currently living in the uk and would really love to be a surrogate but with law here it is very difficult. Really want to help someone have there ...

We're not rich but would like to do surrogacy 
My boyfriend and me are wanting to have a baby, and we can't afford 50k for a surrogate. Is there any way to find someone professionally to have my baby?...

gestational surrogate - after birth, legal stuff 
Hi, I have written before and find the feedback very helpful, so thanks :)

My sister and brither-inlaw (biological parents) went to see the lawyer who ...

I can't afford surrogacy 
I do not think that I can have a baby and I cannot afford to see a doctor for this, I have a family member that will carry a baby for me but what is the ...

IM PREGNANT,HOW LONG SHOULD I WAIT TO BE A SURROGATE 
I plan on breastfeeding for a year after the birth of my daughter. Should i wait untill that time has past before i think about getting any injections ...

Having another baby of your own after being a gestational carrier 
I'm considering offering to be a gestational carrier for a friend. I have one child of my own and would like another in a few years. Is it advisable to ...

If I choose a friend/family member to be my surrogate, who's insurance covers the pre-natal costs? 
I had a stillborn baby girl named Callie born at 32 weeks gestation in May. Because of the trauma my husband and I suffered when our Callie died suddenly ...

Can birth father adopt baby? 
I am having a baby for a friend of mine. He really wants to be a dad and wants to adopt the baby after its born. What issues can I come across legally....

my partner and i have a surogate who is now pregnant 
Hello

my partner and i are due to be married next year he has 2 children with his ex partner, who offered to be our surogate as i can not concieve ...

I'm worried please help!!! 
So I'm in the process of being a surrogate , and currently taking hormonal pills to regulate my period. I have to take the hormone pills for ten days than ...

Twins Through Surrogacy?  
Is it possible to have fraternal twins with two different fathers? My gay partner and I would both like a boy each but want them to have the same mother....

Do you have to pay taxes on the money you get for being a surroget mother? 
I am going to be a surrogate mother soon, starting in November I will begin IVF for a couple in Alaska and I was wondering about the taxes situation?

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Social Security Disability 
Even though I receive SSD, I have been pregnant twice & have wonderful pregnancies with no complications. I actually feel better when pregnant than I normally ...

Qualifications for Surrogacy 
I want to be a surrogate mother however based on my age (44) along with financial status it's impossible.

Im a very healthy mother of five healthy children ...

can you become a surrogate if you were diagnosed with HPV? 
I have had this before the type that causes abnormal cancer cells in the uterus. It cleared up on it's own and has not show up for 5 years. I am so close ...

Do surrogates have a better chance of getting pregnant?  
I am 28 and officially starting the process of becoming a surrogate for my sister and her husband. I have 2 boys and had 2 great pregnancies, no miscarriages....

Do surrogate mothers and the unborn child share the same blood type? 
I was a surrogate back in 97 by In Vito. I gave birth to two beautiful fraternal twin girls. Someone asked me a question the other day as to whether ...

How do I offer to be a surrogate for my sister? 
First, I love your site.

So, I am a 28 year old mother of two healthy wonderful kids. I have been married to my high school sweetheart for almost 12 ...

Can I be pregnant for my baby and a surrogate baby at the same time? 
Hello, my cousin has asked me to be a surrogate for her. However, I've never had any children of my own and am wondering if it would be possible for me ...

My sister wants to be my surrogate 
well me and my sister have had a talk and her and her boyfriend would have a child for me bacause i cant use my eggs and my husband cant use hes sperm ...

Risk of never having kids again 
I am 21 years old and a couple friend of mine who is 12 years older asked me to be a surrogate for them because they are unable to have kids. I am married ...

How old do intended parents need to be 
I am a single male who want's to become a father, and I was wondering how old I have to be in order to start a surrogacy program and what are the costs?...

Can you be a surrogate if you've had an abortion? 
My best friend & her husband have two children already & she just found out she's 5wks along with number 3. Her husband convienced her that if the pregnancy ...

Do we have to involve lawyers and go to court to do surrogacy? 
my sister is having a baby for me & my girlfriend

i was told it was popssible that all we would have to do was
attend every doctor's app & let her ...

would i have to pay any think if mum mum could have a baby for me ? 
hey .. i bin trying for baby for about 4 years now. and it dont seem like i could have a baby ..
my mum said she wood be a surrogate mother for me and ...

This seems perfect! I loved being pregnant, but dont want anymore kids!  
Im 18 years old and when i was 17 i had a set of twins! They're the reason my heart beats now! I loved being pregnant! I loved having the belly, i loved ...

Claiming a Surrogate Baby on Taxes 
Can a traditional surrogate mother claim the baby on taxes?

Reply by Rayven
To claim a child on your income taxes, that baby must be yours. A ...

How old do you have to be before you can carry a baby for a couple? 
Hello there,
I'm very interested in being a surrogate for a couple that aren't able to have children, I'm only 17 at the moment, but this ...

can my friend have baby for me 
I am 34 years old and last year was diagnosed with ovarian cancer and as a result had to have a complete abdominal hysterectomy. I have never had children ...

What is the fee coverage for a termination due to genetic anomalies? 
I am a 4X surrogate but have had 8 babies in total, currently pregnant with surrogate #4, baby #9. We just under went aminio as we failed our pre-screening ...

Is it illegal to be a gestational surrogate when you haven't had kids before? 
My sister has severe dysplasia and isn't able to have kids. This shattered her because all her life she has wanted kids but she only has one and lots of ...

What if the IPs want to terminate? 
I am in the process of becoming a surrogate, and have run my tests, and gotten applications done and looking for a match. I have a question that keeps ...

Following Doctor's Protocol 
I have to take estrace twice a day in the morning and at night. Does it matter if I take the estrace twice at night instead of one in the morning and what ...

Do ovaries matter for the surrogate? 
Can I be a surrogate mother if I have had one of my ovaries taken out ? And I have a lot of mental illnesses in my family but I don't have any

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if u put 3 eggs into me how many babies will i get? 
Im becoming a surrogate mom and waiting to do my screening test. the couple that im doing this for said they will be putting 3 eggs into me. How many babies ...

I want to be a surrogate mother for my friend who cant have children  
Hi,
my cowork at my work has been trying for 5 and a half years to get pregnant. I am not a sweet loving kind of person however when i heard her story ...

Can I become a surrogate at 58 and I am also in the change 
My Son and daughter inlaw can not have a child due to my daughter inlaw having MS. They are two of the kindest people in the world and I realy want to ...

How do I get started? 
I have been thinking of becoming a surrogate for years, and now that my husband and I are done having children - I think now is the time.

My sister ...

Insurance during surrogacy 
Wondering if you have any names of insurance companies that do not have a surrogacy exclusion? I live in Iowa and cannot find one insurance plan that ...

how can my friend have a baby foe me and my husband? 
YES WELL MY NAME IS LYDIA AND ME AND MY FRIEND ARE WONDERING HOW CAN SHE HAVE A BABY FOR ME AND MY HUSBAND WITH NO COST. WE HAVE BEEN TRYING SO HARD AND ...

Fertile but wanting to Conceive my partners child. 
Me and my partner have been together for 3 years and she & i want to conceive a child together. She doesn't want to because of her fear of pregnancy, but ...

Who will the baby look like? 
If I get a surrogate mother to carry my eggs and deliver my baby will the baby look like me or her?

I need to know will my baby look like me and the ...

Surrogacy Insurance 
How can you find out if the surrogate insurance will cover her pregnancy?

We meet a surrogate that she is insured through Aetna.

How can you tell ...

Considering all angles of traditional surrogacy 
Hello, I just started my research last night after my cousin, through marriage, asked if I would really be a surrogate for her & her husband.

A few ...

Intercourse during surrogacy 
when a surrogate finds an agency do they ask her to sign legal papers saying she will not have intercourse with her husband if he doesn't have a vastomy
...

Traditional Surrogacy in Florida 
Hi,
I have a friend who has volunteered to be a Traditional Surrogate for me and my husband. The problem is, I don't know how to get started. I called ...

Did you have trouble giving the child to its biological parents? 
Were there emotional feelings involved?
Did family and friends oppose your decision to be a surrogate?
When people noticed you were pregnant, did you ...

Not sure if I am the best candidate for surrogacy 
I have a close friend in which I said would be her surrogant. After reading some of these questions and answers, I am wondering if I am the best candidate....

surrogacy fees intended parents pay 
if the surrogate does not get pregnant, does the intended parents have to pay more money for fertility treatment in order to get the same surrogate pregnant?...

me and my girlfriend/ fiance have been talking about having a baby... 
i am 30 years old and already have 4 children. me and my girlfriend/ fiancee have been discussing having s baby for a very long time... we have spoken ...

Feelings after the birth of a surrogate baby 
I am thinking about becoming a surrogate mother. I have four children of my own who I love so much and would love to bring this joy to another family ...

I want to be a surrogate for my daughter and son-in-law 
I want to know if there is an age limit to become a surrogate. I am 67 years old and have a great desire to help my daughter and son-in-law become parents....

what to tell my kids while I am a surrogate. 
I am in the process to become a surrogate but my main concern is how my kids will be affected. I have a 2 1/2 year old and 1 1/2 year old and I think my ...

Fears that Surrogacy Won't Work 
Why do I feel so scared and fearful that our attempt at Traditional surragacy will not suceed..but afraid also to even admit that.

We are an older gay ...

BECOMING A MOM AGAIN 
i have three beautiful biological children when my youngest was born the doctor said that he has to tie my tubes because i have been pregnant a total of ...

is it possible to have a gestational surogacy using my dna and my partners sperm? 
I am a 33 year old mother of two boys aged 12 and 11. at the age of 25 I had a total hysterectomy with bilateral salpingo oopherectomy due to endometriosis ...

Questions to ask a potential agency 
Hi Rayven,

When choosing an agency to work with as a GS, what questions would you say are a must to ask?

On the top of my head I know I should ask ...

Im thinking of surrogacy for my friend 
Hi there very recently my good friend had a baby @ 24wks prem the baby died yesterday he was nearly a year old, She is 42 and has no partner she had not ...

if i use a family member, will i still have to go to court? 
hi, im wanting to use one of my family members to be my surrograte mother. but would i still have to go to court? and will please explain to me how a pre-...

Is It possible to still become a surrogate after having an ablastion? 
Ive had an ablation and my tubes tied is it still possible to have an gestational pregnacy?

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Well, it really depends on what kind ...

Can I be a surrogate with my tubes tied 
can i be a surrogant for my brother and his wife even tho i have my tubes tide my sister in law is unable to carrier a child past 18 to 22 weeks

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Can I be a surrogate using my sister in law egg and her husbands sperm? 
My husband is Indian and I am Australian. We both have a child from previous marriages. In the past I have been pregnant by him twice, but we had to terminate ...

Asking for sick day compensation in surrogacy 
Hi. I am in the process of doing this for the first time. I am working with a lawyer and he arranged a meeting with a couple who contacted him. The lawyer ...

im 19 will be 20 in a couple months and have had a healthy baby boy...could i be a surrogate? 
would like to share the joy of having a baby with others who can't but don't think im old enough

Reply by Rayven
Not at this time. You need to ...

Pomegranate? 
Why the pomegranate? lol, just asking

Reply by Rayven

LOL, you know, you're the first to ask me about this. Actually, I love pomegranates,...

Can I be a surrogate for my lesbian lover? 
My girlfriend and I want to have a baby with one another and was hoping surrogacy would do it.

Reply by Rayven

This probably wouldn't be a surrogacy,...

Cost of surrogacy for lesbian couple 
me and my girlfriend are a lesbian couple thinking about using surrogacy how much will it cost

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So many factors go into the cost ...

What can we legally do to keep our surrogate from leaving?  
Our surrogate is 6 months pregnant with our own natural child n CA. She appears to have intentions to leave without us knowing before the baby is born....

I AM A SOON TO BE SUUROGATE n am haveing alittle trouble finding insurance.. 
i am a soon to be surrogate n do not have any insurance so the intended parents hae been paying for everything out of pocket. but i think if i can find ...

what is the youngest age that you can be a surrogate? 
how old can you start being a surrogate.

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In addition to having given birth and be raising at least one of your own children (and ...

telling my fiance that i want to be a surrogate? 
i want to do this and i have decided to do it but how do i tell my fiance or my family about my decision?

Reply by Rayven
Well, first off, its ...

I am looking for an agency that works with women over 40 as a Gestational Carrier. 
I am wanting to be a gestational carrier. I have four beautiful children and love being pregnent. But I am having trouble finding an agency that will ...

Why is it the families don't try without paying instead? 
1.when it comes to the surrogates I understand that it can be difficult emotionally for the family And the surrogate(s0 in Quesrion, but Is there a trail ...

Im 19 and i dont want the baby im carryin.... 
Hi, im 19yrs old, i have had a child before and im currently pregnant. I do not want to have an abortion and i was wondering if i could be a surrogate ...

Should I go through with the surrogacy without a contract?  
so im supose surrogate for this gay couple but i feel compromised because they did not include me in the contract making phase and im realy not sure if ...

Can I be a surrogate mother for my son and his wife using my daughter in laws eggs and my sons sperm. 
My son and his wife are unable to have children. they did undergo fertility treatment but unfortunately the embryo didn't develop. They have had four unsuccessful ...

Can unplanned pregnancies transferred to surrogate and abortions avoided? 
I advocate pro-life idealogy. I think unborn babies should not be killed. So, I want to know, whether a girl who finds herself pregnant and wants to terminate ...

Can I be a surrogate if I have clinical/chemical depression?  
My brother and sister-in-law have been trying to have a baby for 4 years now. They most recently have gone through two rounds of ivf, both have been unsuccessful....

can a surrogate carry a baby if its my egg and my partners sperm ? 
Hello i am just wondering if having a surrogate mother to carry my child be the cheapest way for me as i have been sterilised and i can not afford ivf ...

No Single Moms? 
I reviewed a regulations page for surrogacy. I am a single mother to a very healthy 1 year old boy (father unknown). Why on EARTH am I not eligible to ...

What would the cost of surrogacy be if a friend was an altruistic surrogate mother? 
How much would it cost and for what if my best friend carries a child for me and my husband?

My tubes are tied, and after reading information about ...

My brother is gay and wants a child...what would the procedure be? 
I am 28 yrs old and I have had 2 healthy girls....my brother would like to have a donor egg fertilized with a mix of his sperm and his partner so that ...

Natural insemination 
with a TS if it is not working can natural insemination be an option

Reply by Rayven

By "natural insemination" do you mean sex? If that is what ...

How old do you have to be to become a surrogate mother? 
i will be 16 soon and im very healthy. i need the money for college, im going to Italy for medical school.

Reply by Rayven

Hi Samii,

You are ...

can you be a surrogate if you have had one or more babies born premature 
i have had 3 children, 2 were born prem, and spent a short time in scbu, apart from that pregnancys all great, no actual known reason for prematurity
babies ...

SURROGATE MOTHER GIFT 
AS THE MOTHER OF A SURROGATE MOTHER, READY TO DELIVER, I WOULD LIKE TO GET HER A SMALL PERSONAL GIFT FOR HER WILLINGNESS TO GIVE ANOTHER COUPLE A DREAM ...

Looking for a surrogate in UK 
We are a couple from west yorkshire UK looking for a surrogate to help us achieve our dream of having a child of our own, I have two teenagers from a previous ...

need info on becoming a surrogate for my sister and brother in law 
my sister has an incompetent cervix and has to babies born too early to survive and i just want to help her out

Reply by Rayven

Well, you've ...

how can an intended mother build a prenatal relationship with the baby when the baby is inside the surrogate mother ?  
it's always been said that prenatal relationship means a lot before the baby was born, the bonding; the talking; the kicking.. by having a strong bond ...

already pregnant. want to become a surrogate mum. 
i am already pregnant and don't want my baby to be adopted. i want to choose who my child goes to, so how do i go about becoming a surrogate mum?

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What if you want to be a surrogate, but have given your child to an adoptive family? 
Hi, I've been reading in most of the websites on surrogate's requirements, and they say you most have given birth to a child and be raising them. Well ...

What about the couples who do not have tons of money? 
Aren't there women out there willing to conceive and carry a child for a couple who cannot have children of their own just out of the goodness of their ...

do you know any one personally that has paid taxes on surrogacy? 
I am first time surrogate and wanted to know when you do report your surrogacy compensation on your taxes are they taxed if you say compensation was for ...

I want to offer to be a surrogate for my friends 
I am happily married, Have two beautiful children and really want to offer to be a surrogate for our married friends who have tried for 5 years to have ...

can i be a surrogate for my brother using donor eggs and my brothers sperm? 
i live in england, my brother lives in canada. he has had many failed relationships and longs for children of his own that no-one can take away from him ...

What are my first steps in considering the option of a surrogate? 
Hi. I am 30 years old (2 months away from 31) and I desperately want a baby. My husband and I have been married for almost 6 years, and together for 10....

Can I be a surrogate for my brother and his wife? 
My brother and my sister in law are having trouble having a baby. She has had several miscarriages and was diagnosed with Gillian Barret syndrome is is ...

HOW IS THE TRANSFER MADE FROM THE MALE TO THE SURROGATE?IS THERE ANY INTERCOURSE? 
HEY THANKS FOR GETTING BACK TO ME BOUT MY PRIOR QUESTION ?I'M THE 35Y GAY MALE BEING I'M NEW TO THIS SURROGACY THING, I WAS WONDERING ABOUT HOW THE TRANSFER ...

i'm a new single healthy 35y gay male thinking bout surrogarcy?  
i'm thinking about dealing with the surrogate privatly rather then a agency which can be expensive but will of cuorse have legal counsel & by the way could ...

Is South Dakota Surrogacy Friendly? 
I would like to become a surrogate and I was wondering if anyone knows if South Dakota allows surrogacy. I've looked everywhere and cant seem to find an ...

can my husband be the father of the baby im carrying if we were having sex starting on the 2nd month of my pregnancy ? 
im a surogate mother and is now pregnant with the intended parents child...but on the 2nd month of my pregnancy my husband and i started having sex...would ...

how long do you have to wait after you have a baby to be a surrogate mother 
how long do you have to wait after you have a baby to be a surrogate mother

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There is no set rule for this, but it is generally ...

Can a sister be a surrogate for her brother? 
I have had a tubal and an ablasion and I desperately would like to have a child with my new husband. Is it possible for his sister to be surrogate for ...

How much compensation should i ask for? 
I recently decided to become a gestational surrogate mother. I have had a few people ask me already how much compensation i want. This is something i have ...

Does my blood have to match for my baby to be carried in someone else? 
I have had 3 miscarriages. I'm ready to become a mother. My Question is my friend has offered to carry for me.My heart breaks everytime my period is late ...

Being a Surrogate for my sister. 
What standards are there if you are a surrogate for a family member? Is there an age limit? I am 23. And do you already have to have a child? We would ...

How do I begin the process for my husband and I to have a baby through surrogacy? 
I am unable to have kids but have eggs. What is the process that has to be taken in order for someone to be a surrogate parent for us?

Reply by Rayven ...

how much does it cost to have a gestational carrier/surrogate? 
Are thre any agencies for placing surrogates?

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Intended parents pay different fees depending on so many circumstances. How much ...

My sister is willing to be My surrogate. What do we have to do legally? 
My sister had an unplanned pregnancy and since i am unable to get pregnant we adopted that child and now we are talking about her being a surrogate and ...

if you are on government assistance can why cant you still be a surrogate if the family pays for everything instead of using your medical card? 
i really want to be one but i have a medical card i loved being pregnant and giving birth and i had it really easy i really want to do it for someone that ...

Im going threw the process of being a surrogate. Is there anyhting i might need to know other than the legal stuff. 
What emotional stuff do i need to know about

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I daresay the emotional "stuff" is much more important than the legal process.

You'...

Is it possible I couldn't have any more children of my own if I choose to be a gestational surrogate mother? 
I'm truly thinking about being a surrogate mother but my husband and I find it important to have one more child together. What are the risks that being ...

What are the steps you have to go through to become a surrogate? 
-Health factors
-Family history
-Blood type
(???)

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Vanessa,

Each country has different laws and regulations on surrogacy....

i am 8 months pregnant can i give my baby to a couple as a surrogate 
i am 8 months pregnant and was wondering if i could still be a surrogate by giving my baby up. can i do that?

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No. That is an ...

Is it possible to remove an already fertilized egg and implant it into a surrogate? 
My sister is 7 weeks pregnant. It was an unplanned pregnancy and she has heart problems. If she carries the baby she will more than likely need a transplant....

Is there any way to be a surrogate mother if you have no children of your own? 
I really want to have a child for another couple. I feel it's a calling and I want to do it for all the right reasons. Why can't I find a way to do this?...

Lots of Questions 
Hi Rayven! I'm so glad you have this sight. I have a lot of questions for you! Here goes:
I am thinking of using a gestational surrogate if I ever want ...

To call or not to call? 
So far I've seen that I fit all the normal requirments to become a surrogate, but have had trouble deciding about making the final call for them to contact ...

About how much would it cost to be surragate to a couple? 
I know a couple who are amazingly great and great friends they cannot have children and I beleive she still produces eggs but not sure. If she does and ...

should mothers get paid for surrogacy 
should a mom be compensated for surrogacy yes or no

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Hi Alex,

If you're looking for a Yes or No answer, then Yes, a woman should ...

How old do i have to be in california to be a surrogate mother? 
I am 18 and i have two kids who live with their dad. I love being pregnant but i don't like the after math. I would love to help people who can't have ...

Can I be a surrogate Mom if I had an aborton? 
I had an abortion when my fetus was 9 weeks along, can I still be a surrogate Mom? I am extremely fertile - I got pregnant twice on birth control. I am ...

what precautions do I need to take if my sister is my surrogate? 
I am completely fine with my sister being my surrogate. I want to as she does not work as she has 3 children of her own 2 in school and an 13 month old....

Friend as surrogate 
Hi, I live in MA and was wondering if it is legal for my friend to become my surrogate (no agency). What would be the costs and logistics?

Thank you,...

how does it all work?? 
hi i am 30 years old, i am a 2 1/2 year survivor of ovarian cancer, it all happened suddenly just a year after i was married, we had no idea untill my ...

my sister is my surrogate mother what legal precautions do i have to take  
my sister got pregnant she want me to keep the baby and i want to so she will be my surrogate mother? what legal things do i have to do what are the steps ...

can you be a surrogate if you a vrigin 
i really want to help mothers who can't have children but i am a vrigin

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No, you cannot. You must have had at least one child ...

Do you know the statistics on the amount of surrogacy's in the State of Texas 
I am in school and currently writing a research paper on surrogacy parenthood. It's been difficult finding any statistics on surrogacy or if Obama has ...

howto find a surrogate mum 
hello everyone

where is the best to find a surrogate mum,as me and my gorlfriend are new to the surrogcy thing any help is more then welcome

kinf ...

Am I eligible to be a surrogate mother? 
I have read the qualifications. I have two children and I have been thinking about becoming a surrogate mother. I think it would be really nice to bring ...

how long do you have to decided if you want to keep the baby ? 
if you are a surrogate mother how long do you have to decided if you want to keep the baby or continue with the process

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None....

Besides money, what is the best gift for a surrogate mother? 
My son and daughter-in-law had a friend carry and deliver twins for them as a gift of love. If I could, I would give the surrogate a truck load of money ...

How much does it cost financially to do the whole surrogacy thing? 
I am looking to ti have a friende be a surrogate for me. I cant have kids due to 2 tubal pregnancies that i have had. My gynocologist told me I wasnt able ...

Can anyone out there make a dream come true? 
My husband and I are looking into finding a surrogate mummy,
as i am unable to have a baby naturally...please feel free to leave me comments or information ...

what in your opinion are some of the cons of surrogacy 
I am a student at Akron Institute and i and a few fellow students are doing a class project and our topic was surrogacy. And i was wondering if you could ...

can i still be a surrogate if i am currently pregnant 
i am currently pregnant is there any way i could be a surrogate

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No. It is not physically possible to become pregnant when you ...

Financially Unable for Surrogacy 
My husband and I are unable to carry our own child and have turned to Gestational Surrogacy. However, the only thing that is a road block for us is that ...

Am I eligible for surrogacy?  
i had my uterus and cervix removed. Can i have my eggs removed and his sperm put together and have someone carry our baby?

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Leslie,...

Do you know of any agencies that would let a 20 year old participate? 
My name is Ashley and I'm 20 years old. I've been married for 2 years and have an 8 month old daughter. I had a perfect pregnancy and would love to do ...

hi im a single man who wants a baby is it posible to do surrogacy? 
hi im a single man who wants a baby what age do you have to be and do i have to have a partner

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Alexander,

Laws regarding ...

Should I become a surrogate for my sister?  
I would like some advice and information. I am 29 and have no children of my own.

My sister and her huband have been trying to get pregnant for 2 years....

should the traditonal surrogate be allowed to hold the baby at birth? 
My husband and I have found our surrogate, a close family friend who is 6 months pregnant with her own child. My husband has a fascination with pregnant ...

Can I be a surrogate mother? 
I am 20 years old. Have a 9 month old baby boy who was born very healthy. I am married and have been for about 2 years as of next month. I meet all the ...

How can I find a surrogate mother in the UK? 
Me and my partner are looking for a surrogate in the UK, but unfortunately we are finding it hard here in the UK. It seems to be much easier in the US....

Indian vs. US Surrogacy? 
My partner and I are interested in surrogacy as a viable option on our journey to build a family. We have investigated Indian surrogacy and have found ...

can I surrogate for my grandaughter  
& am 67 & healthy having 67 of my own children

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The oldest surrogate mother to date has been a 61 year old mother helping her daughter....

How much does surrogacy cost? 
I just turned 42 and is afraid that I would have a hard time getting pregnant because of my age. So my cousin is willing to carry the baby for me using ...

Being a surrogate for my best friend and biological father... 
My best friend (who is 10 yrs older than me) has been trying to have a baby for 4 yrs now with no success. She miscarried last year at about 8 weeks (if ...

How many tries does it take for surrogacy?  Not rated yet
If you are using a surrogate for a frozen embryo what are the chances for a baby on the first try? We want to adopt an embryo and use a surrogate to carry ...

what are the chances of a doctor having the wrong timing?  Not rated yet
I am a surrogate and I had the embryo transfer on December 11, which was 5 weeks yesterday so would put me at 7 weeks, well last week I went in for my ...

my sister is gonna be my surrogate what do we have to do to get my name on the birth certificate  Not rated yet
my sister is gonna be my surrogate the traditional one and we are both wondering what we would have to do to get my name on the birth certificate and i ...

considering becoming a surrogate and have several questions  Not rated yet
Hello,

I haven recently been introduced to a surrogate, and hearing her stories of being able to give a family a such an amazing gift really touched ...

Will by baby have the same allergies as the surrogant mother?  Not rated yet
My sister in law has agreed to be a surrogate for my husband and I.
My husband and I have a home business that cares for dogs that are recovering from ...

Will misdemeanors disqualify you from surrogacy?  Not rated yet
can you be a surrogate if you have had misdemeanors in the past almost 6 years ago i have had 5 kids and have giving up for adoption i would love to ...

Can we get insurance after the surrogate is pregnant?  Not rated yet
Can we start the surrogacy process now and get health insurance after the surrogate gets pregnant?

My surrogate is on the free state health care and ...

Medical insurance for surrogacy  Not rated yet
Hi Rayven

I live in Orlando Florida and have a surrogate without INS, we pay out of pocket for everything, How can I get some protection for her and ...

Meeting our surrogate's family?  Not rated yet
Our traditional surrogate is currently 5 months pregnant, we did not know each other before matching, but her and I have become friends. She lives several ...

Single Male Looking to Do Surrogacy  Not rated yet
Hi, I'm currently residing in Great Britain and I am really interested in starting my own family but i have decided that I'd like to do this through surrogacy,...

I'm Pregnant. Can I be a surrogate?  Not rated yet
I'm pregnant and don't believe in abortions, can any one tell me what to do, I'm 26 and already have a perfect little boy of 14 months, thanks

I had ...

Question regarding agency questionaires  Not rated yet
Hi Rayven,

While filling out a questionaire for an agency that I'm interested in working with for my first journey a came across a section that askes ...

Should i be a surrogate for my sister in law+brother in law?  Not rated yet
my sister in law is 33 and has been trying for a baby for 7 or 8years without any success, they have had 2 ivf treatments and neither have worked.

I ...

Being a Surrogate with a Criminal Record  Not rated yet
If you have a arrest for a misdormeter can you be a surrogate with an agency?

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Its really hard to answer this question, and it depends ...

Which state laws apply?  Not rated yet
I live in Michigan, where surrogacy is not allowed. My cousin who lives in Illinois has offered to have a child for me. Illinois does allow it. Which ...

Can my 18 year old daughter be a surrogate mother for me  Not rated yet
If my 18 year old daughter is willing to a surrogate mother for me using my husbands sperm and her egg is this ok? Also how do you do the birth certificate ...

My cousin is willing to carry a baby for me, what would i have to do?  Not rated yet
Im not sure how to go about this, I am unable to have children and my cousin has stepped up and said that she would carry a baby for me, what would I have ...

if i have a surrogate will my baby still have my dna and my boyfriends dna  Not rated yet
i am looking for a surrogate but i want to know it i us one will my baby still have mine and my boyfriends dna

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You do NOT need ...

Sex during surrogacy  Not rated yet
my husband and i well mosty i want to about wether you can have sex while being a surrogate

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You will be required to abstain ...

Emotional Feelings After Surrogacy  Not rated yet
i have always kinda wondered about surrogacy and i just wanted to know what knid of emotional toll did it have on you. how did you feel after having the ...

Questions about surrogacy  Not rated yet
I am contemplating becoming a surrogate and I'm researching as much as I can about the entire process.

First did you take lupron to regulate your cycle?...

i want a surrogate  Not rated yet
i am 28 have pcos and all my options not working, this is what i am determined to do but do i need financial backing?

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I guess I ...

How much does it cost for an experienced surrogate?  Not rated yet
How much should i charge for a second time gest carrier journey. I had twins the first time, and asked for 24- could you tell me if 30 to 35 is normal ...

How much is it to have a surrogate mother to have a baby?  Not rated yet
So my sister is really scared on having her own baby. And i gave her the idea to have a surrogate mother. How much would it cost to go through this?

Reply ...

When is a reasonable timeline to talk about surrogacy?  Not rated yet
My sister-in-law and brother and my husband and I are talking about me being a surrogate for them, I have a 2 year old and we are talking about soon having ...

i need someone to carry my baby but dont have money  Not rated yet
me and my husband need a lady to carry our baby for us but we dont have money to pay her or a doctor not that kind of money we have money to look after ...

Age Limit for intended parents??  Not rated yet
I am 56 and my husband is 57. Would we be considered too old to become intended parents. My oldest child is 39 and my youngest is 29. My husband and I ...

what to do if the intended parents don't follow the contract or don't pay the surrogate?  Not rated yet
I am carrying twins for a couple, and due in 2 weeks. They have not been paying my doctors bills, lost wages, have some of lab bills in collections, and ...

Synchronizing my cyle with the intended mothers - how long does it take?  Not rated yet
The fertility clinic that I will be working with for the IVF to become a gestational surrogate will be putting me on BC pills once my period starts to ...

whats the age cut off for a woman to be a gestational mother in florida?  Not rated yet
whats the age cut off for a woman to be a gestational mother in florida?

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There is no official "cut-off" age for surrogacy in any ...

Can I become a surrogate not having any children of my own?  Not rated yet
I am 24 years old and have endometriosis. I have had 3 surgeries to "clean" up the endo and adhesions. With my last surgery I had a chromotubation to ...

Surrogate for my best friend  Not rated yet
My best friend is gay and he is wanting me to be a surrogate mother in about 5 years for him. I want to do it and have no problem with it. The thing is,...

where to find a surrogate mother. Is there anywhere in Ireland.   Not rated yet
hi my name is lisa. I had my first baby 8 months ago and after i had her i devolped a heart condition and my doctors say i cant ever carry again. Im 25 ...

How Long to Wait Between Pregnancies for Surrogacy  Not rated yet
I am due to have my first child in four weeks. Someone has contacted me about being a surrogate mother and I was wondering how long I have to wait to become ...

I am going to be a GS do I have to claim my comp. I live in CA  Not rated yet
Do I have to claim my comp. on my taxes. How can I get around that.

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Unfortunately, there is no way to "get around" paying taxes ...

How do I find Intended Parents without having to join an agency? Because I'd like to do it for free.  Not rated yet
I would really love the opportunity to be a surrogate. I have two children of my own and 2 step children. I have insurance through the state I live in,...

I want to help my sister-in-law have a baby. But how do I ask??  Not rated yet
My sister-in-law and brother can get pregnant on their own. But Laura is very small. They have lost two pregnancies already, and i know they really want ...

I'm 18 and I want to be my cousin's surrogate, I live in NC. How long do I have to wait?  Not rated yet
My name is Jessica, I'm 18 and I haven't had any children and do not wish to have any of my own in the next 10 years. My cousin and his wife is having ...

I have found a surrogate,what should i do next?  Not rated yet
I have found a surrogate, what should i do next?

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Since this type of question is quite common in the "Ask a Surrogate" forum, I ...

My friend and her husband can't have a baby...should I be their surrogate?  Not rated yet
My very good friend and her husband have been trying for years to concieve their own child. She has advised me that surrogacy is something she would like ...

Am I eligible if my partner's past is questionable?  Not rated yet
HI, I have already been matched with a couple. the agency is going to do a background check on me and my boyfriend. I know my history is flawless however ...

I would love to become a surrogate mother  Not rated yet
Hi,
I am 32 years old,with 3 children, for the past 5 years I been considering surrogacy to help a couple to become a family but I do not know where to ...

Gestational surrogate  Not rated yet
Gestational surrogate? My husband and I have had 4 failed IVF transfers and are looking towards gestational surrogacy for our remaining frozen embryos....

Becoming A Surrogate In The UK  Not rated yet
I was just wondering if anybody had any information to share with me about becoming a surrogate in the UK? Ive been thinking of it for a long time now ...

How Do I find a reputable agency in CT.?  Not rated yet
I am 39 yrs old and I am running out of time to do this. I had a dream kind of message 2 or 3 years ago to do this. Awesome experience, dream message that ...

What emotional things should I consider?  Not rated yet
My husband and I have been trying for a year and half to conceive (we did once but miscarried). The problem is I don't ovulate without a lot of medical ...

Looking for answers  Not rated yet
Hi, my name is Alex and I can't have children. I write this because last year I was told I was unable to have children and it took a toll on me and my ...

What would be a good gift for my surro's children?  Not rated yet
I found cute coloring books explaining surrogacy, but wanted to send them something else too, any ideas?

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It is very nice of you ...

How many cycles does it usually take?  Not rated yet
Help! we have been using a GS and have had two failed cycles. We've only done single embryo transfers each time b/c we have not had a lot of success with ...

Health Insurance in Surrogacy  Not rated yet
Does the surrogates health insurance cover ob/gyn and delivery? if not is there insurance to available to cover this?

What is the cost of a surrogacy ...

Can I be a surrogate mother?  Not rated yet
I have one child. My pregnancy was great. I didn't have any problems. When I got put in the hospital to have my baby, the nurses checked me to see if I ...

Is it still considered surrogacy or is it adoption?  Not rated yet
I am a single 43yo female, I have MS and am not able to carry my own children. I have had several miscarriages 8 to be exact, and my doctor has said that ...

Is it possible to tell the IP's that I only want to carry one child and not multiples?  Not rated yet
I'm in the process of becoming a surrogate and am very excited about it. I only want to carry one child but I see so many surrogates who have had multiples....

Using a surrogate for older eggs  Not rated yet
Hello - I'm researching the options for becoming a Mom at 46 years old. I was wondering if there's any research on using older eggs and transferring to ...

Our Friend Wants To Be Our Surrogate  Not rated yet
Our dear friend has offered to carry a baby for us. What is the legal procedure if a friend carries a baby for us as a traditional surrogate with an anonymous ...

being a surrogate for my sister  Not rated yet
This is my question i have two children and would like one more. my sister wants to wait one year before we do this. do you think it would bo ok for me ...

How do I start the ball rolling to become a single father with the help of surrogacy?   Not rated yet
I'm a 32 English male, I have been thinking about surrogacy for 5 years or so now and want to start the ball rolling because I am wanting a child to complete ...

State Laws regarding surrogacy  Not rated yet
Can you give me a list of the friendly surrogate states or refer me to an article on this matter?

Reply by Rayven
The Human Rights Campaign has ...

How Much Does It All Cost.  Not rated yet
Im a 19 year old girl with a 36 yeat old partner we are looking into having a baby. i was 15 when i was told i couldnt carry children as to absent uterus ...

how much is this going to cost?  Not rated yet
I had my uterus removed about 4 years ago and was just recently married... my husband and I want to have a baby of our own but are scared that we wont ...

How do you cope with being a surrogate?  Not rated yet
I was approached by a friend about being a surrogate for their cousin. I have already have had a child, and I can't imagine life with out her. I am okay ...

Can my eggs be removed after my tubes have been tied and fertilized with my new husbands and carried by a surrogate?  Not rated yet
I've had an ablasion and my tubes have been tied due to endometriosis. Can my eggs be taken after my tubes have been tied and fertilized with my husbands ...

Is it possible to do the gestational surrogacy if had hysterectomy?  Not rated yet
My husband and I are looking into the gestational surrogacy but didn't know if this would be possible if I've had a hysterectomy. I have both ovaries ...

I want to be a surrogate mother for my sister but im really not sure where to start.  Not rated yet
My sister has been pregnant three times & has had three miscarriages. When she had her first miscarriage I told her that i would carry a baby for her & her ...

Beginning the surrogacy process?  Not rated yet
We have a potential surrogate who would be a Gestational surrogate in Michigan. However, we live out of state. Is it possible to have such an arrangement?...

Can you be a surrogate mother after sterilization?  Not rated yet
My sister-in-law can't have children, she is older than me. I have had all my children x4 but I am sterilized. I was wondering if it was possible?

It ...

Can you be a surrogate mother if you have abnormal cells on your uteris?  Not rated yet
I just had my son Sylar October 4th and enjoyed everything about the pregnancy and miss it so much! I really want to be a surrogate mother to help a family ...

will private insurance thru an employer cover surrogacy  Not rated yet
my husband has his insurance thru his employer.
i was wondering if the health care will help cover harvesting my eggs and cover the prenatal and delivery ...

Surrogate for a friend?  Not rated yet
Hello. I am a healthy 25 year old woman. My best friends sister is a 33 year old woman, with a 13 year old son. She has been unable to get pregnant after ...

how much does it cost to have a surrogate  Not rated yet
How much does it cost to have my sperm and my wife egg inplanted into a Surrogate...

Reply by Rayven
There is no one set price for gestational ...

Anyone else have nausea with lupron?  Not rated yet
HELP!!! Ever sine I started lupron I have had extreme nausea, no vomiting but near to it, I hate it. Am I the only one???

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Lupron ...

can my daughter be my surrogate mom? what is the procedure and cost?  Not rated yet
I am 39 years old and had a partial hysterectomy 2 years ago. I would like to use my eggs and my husband's sperm. I'm not sure if this is all possible ...

taxes in surrogacy arrangements  Not rated yet
does a surrogate mother have to claim the money received on your taxes?

Reply by Rayven

I have a whole page devoted to this topic:

Taxes ...

Surrogacy Information  Not rated yet
Hi! I am a mother of 3 kids. I have a friend that is married. They have 1 daughter already and have been trying to have another child for along time and ...

how does this wok ????  Not rated yet
hi im 19 erm found out its very hard to get prego and my sister in law whos has 4 girls already is offing to help me by being a surrogate using my eggs ...

What if I haven't had a complete pregnancy due to termination and I still want to be a surrogate mother?   Not rated yet
I would love to be a surrogate mother but I have never given birth, though I've been pregnant 3 times and I terminated. Because I was never imformed about ...

can i be my best friends surrogate mom?  Not rated yet
My best friend can not get pregnant. I am currently 18. I dont plan to have children of my own ever, but my best friend and her fiance want a child really ...

Can my husband be the sperm donor if he has genital herpes?  Not rated yet
My husband has genital herpes but is in great health. Can he still be the sperm donor if we go ahead with traditional surrogacy?

Reply by Rayven
Genital ...

is it possible to get a surrogate if you already have a child?  Not rated yet
we lost our 1st child at 34 weeks stillborn. Very lucky to fall preganant after & had our very special little boy Alfie. The hospital had to give me ...

What are the legal laws if the surrogate decided to keep the baby?  Not rated yet
I am doing a paper on ethical situations regarding surrogacy law and i was wondering if you could help me. i have been searching for the siscussions and ...

having a baby at 51  Not rated yet
can my wife and i have our sperm/egg implanted in someone else and have them, carry our baby full term? we feel at our age were to old to carry one but ...

Starting this journey  Not rated yet
I am 22 and marrying my best friend. Due to an extensive heart condition that runs in my family, my fiance and I decided that I shouldn't carry or have ...

my sister wants to be my surrogate mother  Not rated yet
yes i was wondering my sister wants to be a independent surrogate mother to me and my husband and we was wondering what is the process because she not ...

escrow  Not rated yet
How can I check out an escrow company? Are there any regulatory agencies, etc.

Reply by Rayven

There are many surrogacy escrow accounts out ...

surrogate mother on food stamps  Not rated yet
i want to be a surrogate but i get food stamps and medical so can i still be one??? thanks

Reply by Rayven
No, I'm sorry, but at this time, you ...

is it common for a surrogate to have little or no contact with the child or intended parents after birth of the child.  Not rated yet
well if i were to become a surrogate i have 3 children of my own and would not want to use my own eggs but will gladly carry a child for someone else. i ...

Can we work with a sperm donor?  Not rated yet
We are a heterosexual couple and we are both unable to have children we long for a baby so much we plan on finding both a surrogate and a sperm donor is ...

can u be a surrogate after a tubal ligation?  Not rated yet
can i be a surrogate after a tubal ligation?

Reply by Rayven

You can become a gestational surrogate mother after a tubal because it is not your ...

ME AND MY FIANCEE WOULD LIKE TO BECOME INTENDED PARENTS.  Not rated yet
I AM THIRTY YEARS OLD AND HAVE TWO CHILDREN AND I AM ENGAGED AND HE HAS ONE CHILD. WE WOULD LIKE TO HAVE A CHILD TO CALL OUR OWN TOGETHER, BUT I HAD A ...

should i do this at 18?  Not rated yet
hey, im only 18 an since i was 14 i have wanted to be pregnant, i never want my own kids, but i would gladly giv someone else that happiness in having ...

Keeping in touch and compensation  Not rated yet
Two separate questions:
- A friend of mine had her child adopted. She gets a photo of the child twice a year and a small update, through her agency (ie ...

how to be a surrogate for my sister....where to start  Not rated yet
where do i start if i want to be a surrogate for my sister

Reply by Rayven
Becoming a surrogate mother for your sister or another family member ...

Altruistic Serogacy  Not rated yet
Hi Ms.Perkins,
My first question is is this type of serogacy real, and if it is how can i get more information about it?

Reply by Rayven
Altruistic ...

Traditional Surrogate: How to Deal with 1/2 Siblings  Not rated yet
Hi there. I was looking around your site for info and personal stories about how Traditional surrogates and their intended parents handle the issue of ...

What is to much compensation gor a gestational carrier?  Not rated yet
How much is to much.

Reply by Rayven
A first time surrogate mother should expect base compensation in the $18,000-22,000 range. Anything more ...

Thinking of being my sisters surrogate.  Not rated yet
I am thinking of being my sisters surrogate. Her cervix is incapable of holding a baby, and she asked me if I would for her. My question is; I have never ...

is it hard to give up the babby after 9mo  Not rated yet
i am looking in to surrogatey b/c i cant have a baby and me and my husband want one so bad

Reply by Rayven

Asking if it is difficult for a woman ...

How much are legal fees if a friend is willing to be your surrogate?  Not rated yet
If my friend is willing to be my surrogate for no compensation, how much (generally) are legal fees? And would her insurance cover the pregnancy costs ...

Surrogate lawyer  Not rated yet
Thank you for taking another question for me.. What kind of lawyer do we need to hire.. And also after we do that and get her health insurance do we just ...

Are there more Advantages than Disadvantages in relation Surrogacy?  Not rated yet
I am doing a speech for a school project, and i am curious about the disadvantages and advantages of surrogacy. I am also wondering about how it is seen,...

can any fees be waived in surrogacy?   Not rated yet
I read the list of expenses and I was just wondering if any of that can be waived if my surrogate and my husband & I have our own agreement? Such as all ...

Can I be a surrogate mother even though I am overweight?  Not rated yet
Hi,
I have tried filling out applications and gone to different websites to become a surrogate mother but have been told, which I already know, I am ...

What if I have my own surrogate mother?  Not rated yet
Hello.. Thank you so much for taking my question.. My husband and I have been trying to conceive.. I did 3 IUI's and 2 IVF's and 1 FET.. I had an ectopic ...

just getting started  Not rated yet
i have a few questions about fees, how long it would take before i would qualify in being a surrogate mother... i am 24, married, and have a 6 month old ...

im 18 and wanting to no if i still can also what do i get out of this???  Not rated yet
hi im 18 and already have a son would i qaulifiy been so young and if so i have read every thing up on it but there is just 2 things how do i do it with ...

what to be a surrogate mother for my best friend and her husband!  Not rated yet
i really want to give my best friend the gift of a child because she is unable to convice but do not know the costs. i wouldnt charge them whats so ever ...

How Can I be Taken Seriously as a Surrogate Mother?  Not rated yet
im a 21 year old ive had 2 children myself with no complications and want to be a surrogate but am finding it very hard to be taken serious im also from ...

sexual intercourse after embryo transfer  Not rated yet
Would it be possible for you to become pregant with your own child after the embryo transfer? I had a positive pregnancy test after the ultra sound there ...

Interested in Surrogacy but not sure where to start?  Not rated yet
I am 31,have 3 healthy children born full term and am interested in surrogacy but don't know where to start. I live in Buffalo, NY and was wondering if ...

Does a medical reason in the biological mother or father need to exist in order to pursue surrogacy?  Not rated yet
I am 33 and I have offered to become a surrogate for my 41 year old cousin and her husband. She was diagnosed 7 years ago with MS, but recently a doctor ...

When looking for an insurance plan, do you tell them that you're wanting to be a surrogate?  Not rated yet
Hi Rayven,

I am currently on a Medicaid plan so I will not be using that for a surrogacy. I am trying to find an alternative that both the IP's and ...

Can you become a surrogate if you no longer have a period?  Not rated yet
I want to become a surrogate but i no longer have a cycle

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I really do not have enough information from you to determine if you ...

how to be a surrogate  Not rated yet
hello my name is mary and i am 26 i have three beautiful children and would love to give someone a baby. How do i get started and how much is the pay

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can i still be a surrogate if im a single mom and on government assitance?  Not rated yet
i already have a healthy 3 yr old son and im raising him alone. i want to be a surrogate but im on government assistance, is it still possible?

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how can find regulatons in the uk to be a surrogate mother?  Not rated yet
i want to be a surrogate mother but wish to find out the rules and regulations in england can anyone help me find info on how and what?

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Do surrogate mothers get credit and background checks by lawyers?  Not rated yet
Hi im about to get ready to drawl up a contract with my IP's for me to be there gestational surrogate. This all independtly and not through a agency. I ...

I want to be surrogate mother bz I am divorcee.  Not rated yet
my both the fallopian tubes have been rupture due to tubal pregnancy.I have crossed 41 but I am very much interested to be surrogate mother. my period ...

Post menopausal Mom wants to be a surrogate for her daughter.   Not rated yet
I am a 58 year old Mom, who has delivered 4 normal term vaginal pregnanacies. I am post menopausal and have contolled high blood pressure. I am wanting ...

Feelings after a transfer  Not rated yet
This is my 3rd time being a surrogate and I cannot remember how I felt after a transfer. I transferred 2 5day embies on 5-19 I had a little cramping later ...

How do I begin the process?  Not rated yet
My name is Jamie and I am about to turn 30. My husband and I have a beautiful 7 year old son. I had to have a partial hysterectomey last year, but we want ...

Can I carry a baby for my bother and sister in law  Not rated yet
My sister in law has pcos and cant conceive!! I was wonder if I could carry a baby for them?

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A sister can be a gestational surrogate ...

What laws in the UK would we need to follow to do a traditional surrogacy?  Not rated yet
my sister want's to be a surrogate mum for me as i can't have children i'm 30 and she 36 what kind of law do we need to look into,me and my partner have ...

Many legal questions regarding surrogacy  Not rated yet
Hi there,

First of all I would like to say that you have a very wonderful website! Extremely informative. It's like my little guide book.

I have ...

Can I become a surrogate if I am overweight?  Not rated yet
Hey Rayven!

I actually have a couple of questions-

I know all agencies (as far as I know) require you to have at least one child of your own to ...

I would like have a second child, but I no longer have a uterus, but I have my ovaries.  Not rated yet
My question is that if I use a surrogate mother with my husbands sperm and my own Egg (or whatever is used to produce the fetus)
what will it cost and ...

How do you find a surogate mother?  Not rated yet
How do you find a surogate mother?

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The short answer is that you can match through an agency or independently, on your own. The ...

my sister in lawis wiling tobea surrogate to my husband and myself will the costs be cheaper for us?  Not rated yet
mysister in law iswilling to be a surrogate for us I hada ysterectomy but still have my ovaries and fllopian tubes will the osts o surrogacy be cheaper ...

3 time c-section mom, would it still be possible to be a surrogate?  Not rated yet
Hello,
I am just starting my research into the possibility of becoming a surrogate for my sister-in-law. My husband and I currently have 2 children which ...

I would like to be a surogate for my mother in law......  Not rated yet
My mother in law and her 28 year old husband really want a baby she cant have anymore kids because after she had my sister in law 20 years ago she had ...

How do I approach the subject of offering to be a surrogate?  Not rated yet
I became pregnant with my first child my senior year in high school. My French teacher (who is also the aunt to my best friend of 10 years) was the first ...

is a healthy 55 yr old too old 2 b a surragate  Not rated yet
is my wife too old

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Your wife is too old to become a surrogate mother for a stranger, and enter into a commercial surrogacy agreement....

Helping a family member by being surrogate but dont want to use my own eggs.  Not rated yet
I am considering offering to be a surrogate for a close family member. They are already considering surrogacy using the husbands sperm (the wife has no ...

Surragate for sister?  Not rated yet
My sister tried for many years to conceive. She now has a 12 yr old boy and for the past 9 yrs she has been trying. I want to be a surragate for her. I ...

International surrogacy  Not rated yet
Hi there
I was thinking of becoming a surrogate mum. I live in scotland,Uk but have done a lot of research on the internet and found that there is a much ...

help with the law  Not rated yet
help needed please
after many misscarages ive found out i cant have children as my eggs are realy shall we say deformed so my friend has offered to carry ...

i would like to know how i go about havin a child for a couple who cant  Not rated yet
how to help a couple who cant have kids

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Well, you've come to the right place! I've put together a getting started page for all ...

Insurance ?   Not rated yet
Can someone tell me what insurance they had the best luck with paying for the whole surrogacy? My sister has offered to be my surrogate and I finally decided ...

surrogate mother   Not rated yet
what is the next step if iv got a surrogate mother

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Well, I'm not certain what steps you have already taken. I've created a page ...

I have 4 children of my own and would love to be a surrogate mother but i have been sterilised   Not rated yet
I am a 43 year old happily married mother with 2 boys 23 and 18 years old and 2 girls 22 and 13 years old that i love dearly. The biggest problem i feel ...

I had the Essure procedure...but can I carry if I decided to have more children?  Not rated yet
I had the Essure procedure done 4 years ago...thinking that I would not want more children (I have 10 years old boy and girl twins), so with this said,...

will it cost me if my sister inlaw wants to be my surrogote my eggs and my boyfriends sperm  Not rated yet
my eggs and my boyfriends sperm i had a baby a year ago myself but my baby id blind and has all sorts of problems cos i have naitp

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my close friend has offerd to be a surragate for my partner and i  Not rated yet
hi my name is sarah and my partner is joe im 22 and his 23 in august we have a very close friend of ours who has offerd to be a surragate for us both as ...

I want to become a surrogate   Not rated yet
I am on SSI and get $646 a month and live in the state of New York is it possible I can become a surrogate?

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Hi Anna,

While ...

Statistics of successful transfers  Not rated yet
This may be a diificult one to answer, but are there any stats out there on successful transfers? Meaning, how many transfers were done before they were ...

I have someone who will be a surrogate mother for me and my fiance.   Not rated yet
How much would it cost to have this done? The would be surrogate mother will not charge anything so I'm thinking it would be just the cost a doctor would ...

i would like to know, where do i start?? how do i become a surrogate??  Not rated yet
I'm 27 yrs old i have 2 children of my own, and have been thinking for a long time now about becoming a surrogate but have no idea where to start..how ...

Can my friend be my surrogate mom?  Not rated yet
My husband & I are thinking about having my friend being a surrogate to my child.But the baby will not have my DNA it will have my husband's.We dont want ...

can my husband sister be a surrogate mother?  Not rated yet
we are thinking of surrogacy and was wondering if my husband sister can carry the pregenancy for us?

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Assuming she meets all the ...

Cost of being a traditonal surrogate to my sister without collecting a fee?  Not rated yet
Hi, I was wondering about becoming a surrogate to my sister. She has scar tissue in her uterus and was told it is unlikely she'll be able to have kids....

Surrogacy for my friend.  Not rated yet
Hi, I've been thinking about being a surrogate for my friend. She's had three miscarriages and hasn't been able to have any other pregnancies for a couple ...

Is it possible for me to be a surrogate for my sister????  Not rated yet
I had a baby 10 1/2 weeks early when I was 16 then 7 years later i had a full term baby. my husband and I are done having children I just was wondering ...

how much compensation will i get being a surrogate in uk  Not rated yet
im looking in to being a TS i live in the uk and have had a wide range of veiws on how much it should be?

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This website, Information ...

How long after becoming a surrogate did you feel the symptoms of pregnancy?  Not rated yet
I am becoming a gestational surrogate for my sister within the next few months. Since the egg will already be fertilized when it is implanted, will my ...

Is putting a cap on surrogate loss wages normal?  Not rated yet
I am in the middle of contract negotiations. My IP want to put a $4,000. loss wages cap on our contract. That includes 4 weeks of loss wages after birth....

Can you have you own children after being a surrogate?  Not rated yet
Hi. I am looking into this for the first time. A friend of mine can not have children due to an accident earlier in her life. I have given birth to two ...