my brother's new wife can't have children. i want to know if medically, can i carry a baby for my biological brother. would it be insestial for me to carry my brothers baby? it would of course be her egg and his sperm. i would only carry the baby. is it possible?
Reply by Rayven
Yes, it is completely possible (and common) to act as a gestational surrogate mother for a family member without involving incest.
The baby is the biological child of your brother and his wife, not you and your brother. You being their surrogate would be the same as them having any other surrogate mother.
What would not be possible, and would in fact be incest, is if you were a traditional surrogate mother for them, using his sperm and your eggs.
You are a wonderful sister for considering this for them!
Best wishes.
Comments for
can i be a surrogate for my brother and his wife?
My brother and his girlfriend have discussed pregnancy, but she has lupus and had a liver transplant previously, and I would love to help them out, and was thinking about being a surrogate for them. I was worried that it might be wierd and such. This helped me a lot. Thank you a bunch!
Sep 30, 2009 Rating
That sounds fine. by: Rayven from Information on Surrogacy
If you are acting as a gestational surrogate (meaning the child that you are carrying is not a child made from YOUR eggs) then you are not contributing any genetics to the child yourself at all. It does not matter where the sperm and egg came from as the child is not biologically yours, and it cannot be considered incest if you carry a child from your partners eggs and brother's sperm.
A baby can only have one biological "mother" and one biological "father". Since both these roles are filled by people who have no genetic relationship to one another, it is not incest. By carrying the child, even though you are related to one of the contributors, you yourself do not contribute any genetics, therefore the relationship is not incestuous.
Make sense?
Best wishes!
Sep 30, 2009 Rating
My brother's sperm + My partner's egg = My baby? by: Anonymous
I commented it in here because it has some relations as far as Sister(me) being the surrogate of my brother's sperm and "his wife"(my partner). I hope i don't confuse anyone. My partner and brother do not have any relations whatsoever. my partner and i have been considering ways to have a child "together" wherein the baby would have both her genes and mine. would it be incestuous if I asked my brother to donate his sperm to fertilize my partner's egg, wherein the zygote will then be transferred into my womb for the rest of the pregnancy, (therefore giving my partner and i the opportunity to somewhat "conceive" the baby together)?
Jan 30, 2009 Rating
Thanks for asking! by: Rayven from Information on Surrogacy
Thanks so much for asking this and bringing this issue into the eyes of all those in surrogacy. Many more are considering surrogacy and have the same questions. You've helped many people.
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