how can an intended mother build a prenatal relationship with the baby when the baby is inside the surrogate mother ?

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how can an intended mother build a prenatal relationship with the baby when the baby is inside the surrogate mother ?

by lidwina.
(singapore)

it's always been said that prenatal relationship means a lot before the baby was born, the bonding; the talking; the kicking.. by having a strong bond with your baby, you are preparing your baby for the real world, and this strong bond itself will give you confident do give birth..
How can an intended mother can build a prenatal relationship with the baby while the baby is inside surrogate's mother womb?
thanks.

Reply by Rayven

Unfortunately, it is difficult for an intended mother to build a relationship with her unborn child. Before entering into a surrogacy, intended parents need to realize that they are not going to have the same experiences as if they themselves were pregnant.

A few ideas, however, are to speak to the baby when visiting your surrogate. Feel for kicks, talk with your child. Do this on a regular basis.

Another option is to record yourself reading a story on a CD, and have your surrogate mother place headphones over her belly and let the baby listen. This may seem silly, but the baby would hear your voice.

And remember, the "experts" don't know everything! Don't stress about the things you cannot control.

Best wishes.

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May 10, 2010
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by: Anonymous

Hi! I am part of a wonderful group of surrogates and Rayven hit it on the head!!
One of our surrogates had her surro babe last week and the IF recorded himself reading nursery rhymes, singing lalabyes, and just general talking as he went about his day. When the baby was born and the IF started talking in the room, she turned to him right away!
Get some good headphones, those old fashion HUGE ear piece ones that you can lay on your belly :)
If your IPs are up for this, I totally recommend it. My IPs are starting their recording now, and we are only 5 weeks! :)

Feb 08, 2010
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by: Rayven from Information on Surrogacy

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Feb 08, 2010
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by: lidwina

thanks for your reply :)
actually i;m a product design student doing my degree course, and for my final year project, i wanted to bridge prenatal relationship between mom and baby. i personally feel that the surrogate mother is interesting case. do you mind if i contact you via email ?
thanks

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