I was approached by a friend about being a surrogate for their cousin. I have already have had a child, and I can't imagine life with out her. I am okay with having another child for another woman, and I am well aware of the hormonal change that my body will go through. Although I am mentally prepared, I can't shake the fear of what if I can't cope after the child is here? And what if something where to go wrong? I am worried that I would feel more responsible for the unborn baby then they would. I am scared but, I feel passionatly about giving this family a child they so want and deserve.
Reply by Rayven For many surrogate mothers, myself included, there has never been an issue with "coping". I knew that I would have no emotional problems/issues with carrying a baby for someone else and then giving him back at his birth.
I once had a doctor ask me what it was like carrying someone else's child. I told him, "Its kinda like driving someone else's Lamborghini. You know how to drive, but you are super careful about it."
If you are feeling that you might have coping issues with becoming a surrogate mother, you really need to talk with a counselor before proceeding. Go through the thoughts you are having and see if surrogacy is the right thing for you. Its not right for everyone, and it is completely OK if it is not right for you.
I applaud you for realizing you might have unknown feelings later down the line, and examining them now, before you become pregnant. So many surrogacy arrangements end badly because of those involved trying to suppress or deny emotions.
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How do you cope with being a surrogate?
