Intercourse during surrogacy

when a surrogate finds an agency do they ask her to sign legal papers saying she will not have intercourse with her husband if he doesn't have a vastomy

once embroys are in the surrogate mother she can still get pregnant by her husband

Reply by Rayven
Actually, most contracts forbid sexual intercourse between a surrogate and her husband (or anyone else for that matter) from 2-4 weeks prior to the transfer, to up to 3 months after.

And it does not matter if the surrogate has had her tubes tied or her partner has had a vasectomy.

Every potential surrogate mother needs to EXPECT a clause forbidding sexual intercourse for 3-4 months, and should feel fortunate if her contract/clinic does not require quite as long.

Legal papers? Yes. It is the surrogacy contract, written up by the lawyers.

But its actually not the agency that requires it. Independent surrogates will find the same thing. Its really common sense. Accidental pregnancies DO occur in surrogacy. And DNA tests are pretty standard after birth. If a surrogate mother inadvertently gets pregnant with her own child, most contracts stipulate that she pays back ALL fees associated with the surrogacy: compensation, medical expenses, lawyers, clinics, agencies, you name it.

After transfer, most clinics require several weeks to a couple months of abstinence too. I guess they figure that you went through so much to get pregnant, they really don't want to "stress" the body any further when the pregnancy is still very new.

And could she become pregnant with her own child after the transfer? Actually, yes, it is possible, if the transfer was unsuccessful and the surrogate had intercourse right afterwards, getting pregnant with her own child, the pregnancy tests would show positive and she would go on to be pregnant for and deliver her own child.

Abstaining is just one of those sacrifices surrogate mothers make during the process. Those who are offended by it, or don't feel as though they can do it do not belong in surrogacy.