Is it possible to carry my child and my brother's child at once?

by anonymous
(USA)

My brother and his wife are having problems conceiving. I am considering being a surrogate for them if it ends up that is what is needed. I have never given birth before to my own children.

It ends up that my husband and I are also thinking about getting pregnant. This might be a silly question, but could I carry "twins"? Where one embryo was my brother and his wife's baby and the other one was my husband and my baby? I guess they would be "siblings" and cousins in once.

Really I am wondering though if this is a possibility? Can I carry two children that are created by different parents? Or will it endanger the babies? Would this be something that a doctor would even consider doing?

Reply by Rayven
Medically, it is possible. There have been cases of a surrogate mother carrying twins for a gay couple where one baby was the biological child of one partner while the other baby was the biological child of the other partner.

Would a doctor do it? NO

Logistically, this would NEVER happen.

First, you are not eligible to be a surrogate mother until you have had children of your own. Period.

Second, achieving a pregnancy, even if you have been pregnant before, is never a guarantee with IVF. And achieving a twin pregnancy is even less likely.

What would happen if you transferred two embryos, one from each set of parents, and only one took? Then both families would be waiting around on pins and needles for the baby to be born. A DNA test would be done to figure out who the lucky couple that gets to take home the baby would be and the other couple would be devastated.

Then there is the cost to the whole thing. Why on earth would you want to go through an IVF egg retrieval, which is painful physically and financially, when you could most likely conceive on your own?

Any doctor that would consider this type of situation would not be acting in the best interest of his patients.

I hope I'm not sounding too harsh here for you. I'm really just trying to bring to light a couple of the many many reasons why this would be a really bad idea.

Best wishes!