Surrogacy Matching

Finding the Perfect Surrogate or Intended Parents

Matching

Once you have decided to become a surrogate mother, or to become parents through surrogacy, it is time to find your perfect match.



In many ways, the matching process is much like dating. There is a lot of insecurity, uncomfortable questions, and everyone is on their best behavior. And, just like dating, you need to get to know someone before you make a commitment.

This takes time.

Although you might be tempted to rush this process and get started on creating a family through surrogacy, it is important that you really take the time to make sure that you are properly matched.

There are two different ways that you can match with the perfect surrogate mother or intended parents.

Both have unique pros and cons.

You can either find a match independently, or you can have a match found for you through an agency.

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Agencies

There are hundreds of surrogacy agencies throughout the country and the world, all created to help match intended parents and surrogate mothers. These agencies take a fee from the intended parents in order to use their services. Surrogate carriers are not charged a fee.


What Are Agencies?

Pros and Cons to Working with an Agency

Finding an Agency

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Independent Matches

For those who do not wish to work with an agency, or already have a match, the option of going independent is very appealing. These matches do not benefit from the services provided by an agency, but can save a substantial amount of money.


What is an Independent Match

Pros and Cons to Independent Matches

How to Find an Independent Match

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Interviewing

After you have found a few potential matches, it is important to interview your potential matches over the phone or email.

Each potential surrogate mother and each intended parent are looking for specific traits and qualities in their perfect match, again, much like dating.

The interview process is intended to help each party find those who share these traits and qualities, and to pass on those who do not, before becoming emotionally involved.


The Interview

Questionnaire for Surrogates

Questionnaire for Intended Parents

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Meeting in Person

After interviewing, it is very important that potential surrogates and intended parents meet together in person. This should be done before making any sort of formal commitment, irregardless of how well the interview process goes.


Meeting in Person

Red Flags

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The matching process can be stressful, but just like dating, once you have found “the one”, you will know. Taking the time to find someone you can trust through this process is so very important. It is the difference between a wonderful surrogacy journey and a frightening one.

Remember, take your time and get it right.


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