My brother is gay and wants a child...what would the procedure be?

by cinthia
(los angeles, ca)

I am 28 yrs old and I have had 2 healthy girls....my brother would like to have a donor egg fertilized with a mix of his sperm and his partner so that they wont know who's it is....what would be the procedure for this? I really want to be their surrogate...would an agency be required or can a clinic take care of the fertilization?

Reply by Rayven
This would be a gestational surrogacy. You do not have to go through an agency, though you will still need to have an attorney(s). A clinic in your town should be more than able to handle the procedure.

They would retrieve the eggs from the donor and put you on medication to sync your cycle with hers. Once the eggs were retrieved, they would mix them with the sperm from both your brother and his partner, and a few days later would transfer them into your womb.

You would be required to take hormone shots for several weeks/months on a daily basis (self-administered). Once the baby(s) is born, you would give her back to her fathers.

I would caution you that you are already done having your own children. Not only is having at least one child of your own a prerequisite for surrogacy, anything can happen while attempting to help someone else. It would be sad if you lost your ability to have your own children while trying to give a gift to your brother.

Best wishes!