what in your opinion are some of the cons of surrogacy
by shannon
(haines )
I am a student at Akron Institute and i and a few fellow students are doing a class project and our topic was surrogacy. And i was wondering if you could tell me what the cons were of the surrogacy process would be.
Reply by Rayven
Hi Shannon,
Yes, there are cons to surrogacy. Here are a few of the biggest.
1. Costs Surrogacy is extremely expensive, and out of reach for many infertile couples. The ones who do choose surrogacy often are regular, middle class Americans (or their counterparts from other countries) who sacrifice greatly in order to become parents.
2. Poor Matching Many surrogate mothers and intended parents are so eager to get started that they rush the matching process instead of taking their time and finding the best people to go through this fantastic journey with. Often, what happens is that there are severe personality conflicts that can destroy a fragile relationship, and make the entire process quite miserable.
Also, sometimes due to rushing the matching process, one party (either the surrogate or the intended parents) ends up being less than ethical, and leaves the other party with great financial burdens.
3. No Guarantees Surrogacy is an emotional whirlwind for everyone involved. And it is an extremely expensive process. But the kicker is that at the end of the day, there are no guarantees. There are no promises that a happy, healthy baby will be born. Transfers fail. Miscarriages and premature births happen. The reality is that a couple can use up all their savings and still be left without a baby.
One interesting thing I think I should mention: it is a myth that surrogate mothers try to keep babies they give birth to. While this happens in extremely rare cases (much the same way you hear every once in a while about a baby being stolen from a hospital) it is truly not a cause for concern in the surrogacy community.
Comments for
what in your opinion are some of the cons of surrogacy
While doing your paper for school, it might help to point out that surrogates and intended parents can go two separate routes. One way is to go through an agency. Going through an agency requires more money, but I feel that everyones rights are better protectd. It also allows the surrogate and the parents to have a relationship where they do not discuss money. All transactions go through the agency. The agency will also help to match people with common backgrounds. The other way is to "go independant" where the family and surrogate do not use the agency, hire their own lawyers, etc. I think that if you research both ways as well as the difference between gestational surrogates and traditional surrogates you will find that the pros and cons are different.
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